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Basically Marlene, in your circumstances you should have been counselled at age 10 after the trauma. If you where counselled at that point, and I mean counselled to the point where you have talked it all out, you understand what has happened and grieve the trauma itself, you would not have likely got PTSD now from the remainder of your life stressors. That one unresolved point is what caused the chain reaction, simply awaiting the catalyst in life to throw you right over the edge and allow PTSD to become fully developed and formed in the mind. Its a scary thought that most of us could have avoided having PTSD "IF" we knew then what we know now.
No child wants to go into counselling, so you force them into it, regardless their wishes. Sorry, yes its abrupt, its meant to be. People actually will do things when forced if they are progressively made to feel that the forced act is within their best interest, regardless what they think at the time, they will come around and they will help themselves, if for nothing more than to get out of having to attend regular counselling. Forcing a person to do something can and will actually work if done correctly, and if the counsellor is worth their qualification, they will know how to lead them into feeling comfortable and ensure they feel that this forced act is within their best interest, and made to feel that, not just think it.
Once again, counsellors worth their weight are few and far between, sorry to say for those with qualifications, but most are useless when it comes to real counselling, they only do what they know from a text book, because they are not mentally tuned to counsel, more they chose the profession for other reasons, not because they are suited to it. Most should know what I mean... it is like putting any group of people in a job, one person is suited to it and will perform extremely well, the rest just drag themselves through the process of doing what they have been told to do, or learnt to do, not actually necessarily suited to the job itself.
No child wants to go into counselling, so you force them into it, regardless their wishes. Sorry, yes its abrupt, its meant to be. People actually will do things when forced if they are progressively made to feel that the forced act is within their best interest, regardless what they think at the time, they will come around and they will help themselves, if for nothing more than to get out of having to attend regular counselling. Forcing a person to do something can and will actually work if done correctly, and if the counsellor is worth their qualification, they will know how to lead them into feeling comfortable and ensure they feel that this forced act is within their best interest, and made to feel that, not just think it.
Once again, counsellors worth their weight are few and far between, sorry to say for those with qualifications, but most are useless when it comes to real counselling, they only do what they know from a text book, because they are not mentally tuned to counsel, more they chose the profession for other reasons, not because they are suited to it. Most should know what I mean... it is like putting any group of people in a job, one person is suited to it and will perform extremely well, the rest just drag themselves through the process of doing what they have been told to do, or learnt to do, not actually necessarily suited to the job itself.