My Domestic Abuse = Disgust Towards Military

[Mogwai]

And I wasn't "beat by my ex". He carved his initials on my vagina and forced me to lick the blood off the knife. He urinated inside of me. In EVERY orifice. I can describe the taste of a gun in my mouth and what went through my head when I heard the trigger being pulled. I know what it feels like to have a knife slicing my throat. I have these lovely scars and almost every man I meet tells me that I'm "damaged goods". I would love to say that I was "beat by my ex", because bruises fade.

 

[safenow]

I have similar memories myself, Mogwai. It is horrible what one person does to another. I am really glad you trust and like your therapist. I hope they help you to forget the middle of your trauma. That is the only thing that helps me to function since those years. As long as I only think of the parimiter of the trauma and the end, and don't think of the middle, I can function. When I think of the details of each of the traumas, I don't funtion that well. I have flashbacks, or stay so dissociated I can't function. I end up not sleeping. Not eating or even being able to move very well.

I have those same triggers myself. Do this with me, okay?

The following flashback halting protocol can be taught. It is based on the principles of dual awareness, reconciling the experiencing self with the observing self. It usually will stop a traumatic flashback quite quickly.

Fill in the blanks:

Right now (you) I (are) am feeling _________________
(insert name of the current emotions, usually fear)

And (you) I (are) am sensing In (your) my body ____________________
(describe your current bodily sensations – name at least three)

Because (you) I (are) am remembering _______________________
(name the trauma by title only – no details)

At the same time. (you) I (are) am looking around where (you) I (are) am right now in _______________
(the actual current year)

Here _______________
(name the place where you are)

And (you) I can see ______________________
(describe some of the things that you see right now, in this place)

And so (you) I know _____________________
(name the trauma, by title only, again)

Is not happening now/anymore.

Print this out and have a loved one keep a copy so they can help if the need arises.
Take care.

 

[Anglesachse]

No She is right to hate us for no reason. We are after all Mindless Cold Hearted Baby Killers and Murderers, We get told it often enough so it must be true.

But just for the record. While your sleeping under the blanket of freedom we provide, (including your right of Freedom of Speach and your right to have an opinion) you realy shouldn`t complain about those of us that are willing to fight for Your freedom, nor the manner in which we provide it.

I have a German wife whom I married while serving. I doubt very much she would have been able to marry a Brit (let alone have the freedom to say what she thinks or have an opinion outside of the State`s) if people like us were not willing to stand against people like Hitler and his cronies.

Exactli the same as in Bosnia with the Serbs, Iraq under Hussein or Afghan with the Taliban or Aidid in Somalia all of whom are willing to kill their own and all others who oppose them in the most horrendous ways just so they may sit on their thrones of evil.

I certainly never joined to kill others. I joined to help the less fortunate and oppressed.

You don`t have to like us, but if you are not willing to do the shity job that we do. Maybe you should keep your opinions to yourself, and be grateful for those of us who are willing to try and make the world a better place and leave us to get on with it.

tuppence

 

[safenow]

I joined to help the less fortunate and oppressed.

Thank you for all you did for us. If you will allow it, (((( Anglesachse )))).

 

[JarHed]

I'm sorry to hear of your problems and struggle, but I have to say this.

The only thing that is like war is war. Somethings may be an analogy of it but nothing is like it.

If you're going to hate, do it for the right reason and not for the things that you've stated. I'm ex-military, served in a war, was severely wounded, I did my job. I've lived with and heard stuff like this my whole life. You should thank everyone that has and does serve in the military. They've made it possible for you to have a life in a free country where you get choices.

Hope you find what you need.

JarHed

 

[Nicolette]

Please be mindful that if this thread gets heated, argumentative or personal it will be shut down and closed thank you.

 

[anthony]

Spot on Jarhed. Also a veteran, and the only thing like war, is war. If you haven't been in it, don't try and over-state your events as war, because I doubt they're even close.

If you aren't military, or your trauma has nothing to do with actual military, then don't involve it in your discussion, otherwise I will ban you for trolling behaviour.

This is equivalent to me equating something to being raped, of which I haven't; I can't even assimilate such things to the term rape when talking about anything in my past.

 

[Abstract]

He carved his initials

I am very sorry these things happened to you. Noone should experience such purposeful violence and with the only aim being to harm and degrade another human being. I hope with time that you manage to free yourself from these emotions that he has put onto you.