General On Days Like This.....

[Nicolette]

I hate PTSD.... it consumes them and impinges on relationships. It drains my energy. The symptoms not only affects them but us too (to a lesser extent)......... :cautious:

 

[Abstract]

Nicolette, it affects everything and everyone. It is awful for relationships. Sorry it is affecting you and draining you at present.

In some ways I imagine being on the outside is even more dis-empowering as you don't even have the ability to change things.

 

[a3a2]

I know, Nicolette. Sometimes it seems like no big deal. I can handle it. Other days it seems to suffocate me.

I hope you have a good nights sleep tonight and a better day tomorrow. Thanks for being real, and not pretending as though you have this all conquered. Your vulnerability helps us know it is okay to be vulnerable.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Sorry Nicolette. :(

:hug:

 

[Nicolette]

I know sufferers don't deserve PTSD but do supporters deserve the the brunt of symptoms?! I know the answer - just venting. I am strong but I've dealt with enough crap in my life - I shouldn't have to feel like an intruder in my own home. It's not fair!!! None of this. The illness consumes them and innocent others; its like a never ending cycle.

It's so hard when they are doing better for most of the time as you get used to that. When they then fall over it seems worse even though it is milder than before - it's like the equilibrium changes and you adapt but really its just a matter of time.... it doesn't go away... *sigh*

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Vent away! :)

I wish I had helpful words for you, but you have probably heard them all. But I do hear what you are saying. I can see that is what my husband is dealing with now, I've been doing better, he got used to it and now I am not doing so well and it's hitting him hard and he doesn't know how to cope. It hurts becasue he wants me to tell him what to do and I can't handle all that or him for that that matter.

It really hurts our marriage when mental illness rips through. It SUCKS. I have to sit back and watch and try not to hurt those around me.

Sorry Nicolette. What have you been doing for you?

 

[Nicolette]

I have to sit back and watch and try not to hurt those around me.

And here in lies the fundamental problem as from where I sit, while I know this is the best you can do at the time, it sucks being on this end of being shut out, ignored and feeling like just your presence is detested. I'm not saying it's wrong - it just simply 'is'.

 

[Tinyflame]

But please remember too Nicolette it's not your presence that's detested, it's the sufferer detesting their own ptsd, never you.

I actually think it's good for supporters or sufferers to say they hate PTSD, if they wish.

:hug: from across the miles if that's ok?

 

[Nicolette]

Hug accepted thanks Junebug.

Thank you too Ayesha.

I get having PTSD is worse than being a supporter but each person's pain and suffering is their own...........

 

[Tinyflame]

I don't think it's worse Nicolette, just different. In fact, I find it harder to watch someone you love suffer than to take it upon yourself (if you could). And the horrible reality of dealing with someone you love acting-out at you, because of the pain.

I was thinking.. it would be really handy if we could pop (LARGE) holes in the bottom of all our stress cups.. :) :hug:

 

[p-no]

I also don't think having PTSD is worse than being a supporter, but different. As you say, each person's pain and suffering is their own and another person can never judge about how they are feeling and how bad it is.

I'm sorry you're having a rough time with it all. It does suck.

 

[amethist]

As I see it you are in this together, and if he suffers, you suffer too.

While they may be the ones suffering with PTSD and we have no idea how it effects them in their minds, we suffer with all that goes on around us.

Like ever increasing circles when you throw a stone in a pond. The ripple effect.