Relationship Please Help Me Help My Daughter :-(

[Muzikluvr]

Speaking of abbreviations, here are a few I stumbled on. Maybe you're trying to shorten your post with them? But, it took me longer to read your posts because I had to decipher it. I think I got 2 out of 3 of these and the other one, I disregarded...

He's been a great support to her, driving RT each weekend,

RT=Round Trip? Actually, I figured that out when I was going back through to point out some abbreviations I didn't get... so, actually I skipped it in my original read as well.

culture shrouds the affects of MI

MI=Mental Illness?

my ex, the only member of their FOO that wasn't committed to a RTC, was a narcissist

RTC= ?

 

[Nicolette]

DMerish please stop using abbreviations/acronyms unless you type the full word and then the abbreviation in brackets

My therapist (T)

then in the rest of the post you can refer to a therapist by T.

You also need to be mindful that posts wrap across pages so if a few others have posted in between or it looks like you post will be at the end of a page, you need to follow the guidelines for acronyms

Always write out the first in-text reference to an acronym, followed by the acronym itself written in capital letters and enclosed by parentheses. Subsequent references to the acronym can be made just by the capital letters alone. For example:

Geographic Information Systems (GIS) is a rapidly expanding field. GIS technology . . .

 

[ms spock]

I really found FOO and the rest confusing.

The best of wishes with your daughter. Seeing your own psychologist to manage yourself would be the best thing so you can last the distance.

Good luck.

 

[Nicolette]

Also

When we choose to use acronyms within a written text, we must carefully consider what acronyms to use and how to define the acronym such that our readers will fully understand the reference. For example, you should generally stick to acronyms that are used within the field for which you are writing rather than creating new, unused acronyms. Also, in order to avoid confusion for your reader, you must find ways to define the acronyms that you use. This is important because acronyms can have multiple meanings. For example, NATO has also been used to represent North African Theater of Operations and National Association of Theatre Owners, Inc., among others. Moreover, ASAP has been used to represent Army Substance Abuse Program and Aerospace Safety Advisory Panel among others. Clearly, the use of acronyms without proper definition can create confusion for your reader.

http://www.everythingenglishblog.com/?p=481

 

[rightkindofme]

Ok, it is clear now that acronyms are hard. Back to the thread. :)

I hear how hard this is for you. I'm glad you are keeping up boundaries if you know you can't handle having your daughter live with you. That's important.

I understand having the desire to take away someone else's pain. The thing is, if you take away someones feelings... you don't get to just pick which ones. You probably don't actually want her to lose the ability to feel. Unfortunately having the ability to feel means that sometimes you feel really bad. :(

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Another possibility of her opening up to you and talking about her trauma is that she has a psychotic break. I had one, but fortunately I had a great therapist and doctor who knew I needed to go inpatient. She doesn't have that sort of support. You aren't prepared to deal with her if she has a psychotic break. Please do not ask her to talk to you about her trauma. It is playing with fire. Healing isn't just about talking about trauma. It's processing the trauma. Please don't put yourself in the position of a therapist as you are not trained to help a trauma sufferer. I had a safety net of professional help and I barely made it through. If she has a psychotic break, and isn't to the point of trusting professionals, her road to recovery will be all that much harder.

 

[amcen]

Another possibility of her opening up to you and talking about her trauma is that she has a psychotic break.

Please Solara, what do you mean by psyhotic break? What happened exactly, if you allow me to ask you? Please don't force yourself to answer me if there is any risk of triggering bad stuff.

Thank you in advance for your answer.

DMerish, I wish you and your daughter the so very best in the healing path. I deeply hope that your daughter will be able to find the huge courage to trust her therapist and talk, so the healing process can start.

 

[DMerish]

Thank you all for your kind words, your insights and suggestions, and for making it clear how and when to use abbreviations. I apologize for the confusion that my abbreviations caused and for the extra time and effort a few of you had to put into figuring out what I was writing and clarifying the matter. Again, I apologize, and thank you.

Drew~

 

[LizardViolet]

Echoing what others have said, to take care of yourself and offer what support you are able and willing to give your daughter, given your own limitations and boundaries.

Everyone finds their own path to healing, at their own pace. It's wonderful that your daughter has you and her brothers. That support will help.

 

[Lucycat]

Please Solara, what do you mean by psyhotic break? What happened exactly,

I know this was addressed to Solara, but I thought I would share my experience.
When I was suddenly forced to confront the details of my trauma more than 30 years after the event, I had what I describe as a 'meltdown'.

I could not eat or sleep or concentrate. I could not think. I felt as if I were going mad. I could see things that were not there, and the walls and floor kept moving and changing colours. I thought people were sending me irrational messages to kill myself via the computer. I was startling at every movement and sound. I was paranoid and thought people were trying to get to me. I became terrified of the telephone. I had flashbacks and constant intrusive thoughts. I was dissociating - spaced out and shut off from reality.

It was an incredibly frightening experience. I drank myself into oblivion to try and get some peace, but it was just as bad when I woke up. My GP had prescribed some temazepam and diazepam to help me through this, so I took the maximum each day, ignored the advice about alcohol and got even more drunk. At times I was literally banging my head against the wall just trying to make it all stop.

Eventually, after being like this for a week I contacted a T, who very quickly took control. From then it has only got better...

 

[amcen]

Thank you Lucycat for your kind answer.

When I was suddenly forced to confront the details of my trauma more than 30 years after the event, I had what I describe as a 'meltdown'.

I could not eat or sleep or concentrate. I could not think. I felt as if I were going mad.

Up to that point that is exactly what happened to me, including the "more than 30 years after the event".

But I didn't know that such psychosis could be triggered by PTSD. Knowing the absolute hell I went through during my 'meltdown' I can only imagine how incredibly tough it must have been for you to go through what you are discribing.

I am so very glad that you found a therapist who could help you.

Wishing you the so very best in your healing path.

 

[Lucycat]

But I didn't know that such psychosis could be triggered by PTSD.
I am so very glad that you found a therapist who could help you.

I had no idea either, despite being married to a psychiatric nurse and thinking I knew at least a little!

However it was because of that, that I was able to access a great therapist. I had no idea until I needed him that trauma is his specialty. It has been hard work, and just when I think I am finished recovering there is another wee hill to climb.;)