The supporter part of me can see his point. If he's stressing over money (or other stuff), then i can see him wanting to talk about stuff straight away to get things sorted out.
The sufferer part of me can see that it's unfair of him to push things if you're at a point where you can't handle it, and aren't likely to remember it.
I do think it's unfair to castigate you for going to the ER over your asthma attack - though if he is worried about the money side of things, I can see that. Does make me feel really lucky to be in the UK, where it's free to walk into hospital, though.
With the constant questioning on the medication, he may think he's being helpful by reminding you (again, from the supporter side of me), and not realise he's making you feel as though he thinks you're just 'mental'. (Unless you've told him that's how it makes you feel, in which case he should have listened.)
Hub and I basically wobble our way through things. He tends to want to stop conversations (as do I on rare occasions), while I have a pathological need to get things mended asap (whether that's ptsd or just me, I don't know). Causes clashes every now and again - though since we found out I have PTSD too (unrelated to his), it's bizarrely made this sort of thing easier. Like there's no longer any sort of question of his needs being more important than mine, because he's the unwell one (that wasn't a major factor before for us, but it came up now and then).
The sufferer part of me can see that it's unfair of him to push things if you're at a point where you can't handle it, and aren't likely to remember it.
I do think it's unfair to castigate you for going to the ER over your asthma attack - though if he is worried about the money side of things, I can see that. Does make me feel really lucky to be in the UK, where it's free to walk into hospital, though.
With the constant questioning on the medication, he may think he's being helpful by reminding you (again, from the supporter side of me), and not realise he's making you feel as though he thinks you're just 'mental'. (Unless you've told him that's how it makes you feel, in which case he should have listened.)
Hub and I basically wobble our way through things. He tends to want to stop conversations (as do I on rare occasions), while I have a pathological need to get things mended asap (whether that's ptsd or just me, I don't know). Causes clashes every now and again - though since we found out I have PTSD too (unrelated to his), it's bizarrely made this sort of thing easier. Like there's no longer any sort of question of his needs being more important than mine, because he's the unwell one (that wasn't a major factor before for us, but it came up now and then).
