Help... I Don't Want To Lose My Son

[Notsowild]

I had my car accident in July and about a month later I developed PTSD. I was getting flashbacks insomnia and panic attacks while driving.

My son offered for me to move in with him while I recuperated . Since moving in I am anxious, irritable, having flashbacks and trouble sleeping . And I have problems being the passenger in a car with someone else driving. I just tense up and freak out about everything . I do this when he's driving also.

All my little PTSD quirks seem to be getting on his nerves and he seems mad at me all the time. We had a great relationship before.

My daughter seems to understand me more but she has anxiety and panic attacks too.

Does anyone find sons don't understand like daughters?
Any suggestions with my son?
Thanks

 

[Abstract]

Could he go to a joint session with your t and would he read up a bit about PTSD Notswold?

 

[Bees Are Awesome]

I agree with Abstract; perhaps it would be helpful for your son to attend a therapy session with you (assuming you have a therapist) to get a better grasp on what you are going through and how he can help you. There are also books and websites (even this one) that he could look at. My husband went to a session with me and found it helpful. He still doesn't always understand and gets frustrated with me at times but he tries to just go with it. He has learned when to push me and when to give me my space.

Relationships are difficult even without PTSD. I hope things start looking up for you soon and that you and he return to a good relationship.

 

[Hashi]

My son offered for me to move in with him while I recuperated

Recuperating is an interesting word. I can't help wondering how your son - and you - pictured this going. Is there a chance your son saw this as finite, and was thinking of weeks? What did you see it as?

Please don't misunderstand me, because I am someone who believes in healing from PTSD. I just wonder about your expectations, and your son's expectations.

Are you having therapy? I'm curious as to why this isn't mentioned in your post.

 

[Notsowild]

Thanks @Abstract & @Unraveling1 & @Hashi for your helpful comments

Recuperating is an interesting word.

I meant recuperating physically from the accident. At first I thought the flashbacks and insomnia would just diminish as time passed. But alas they did not I only got added symptoms.

Are you having therapy?

I did not think I needed therapy at first and now I'm waiting to get my insurance to cover it and finding a T is proving very hard.

 

[Abstract]

I think there is nothing that ups the anti more for someone who is a bystander than if the person isn't getting treatment. A lot of his frustration may be coming from that. Does he know you are looking to get treatment now? What about the other question Hashi asked? When you moved in what was your conversation about how long you would be living with him?

Well done for getting the treatment you need.

 

[Britt.f7]

I think it is hard for someone on the outside, even our children, to see what is on the inside. Have a frank talk with him about how this accident has effected you and that you are trying to get help for that. It is hard, sometimes, for children to see that their parents are invincible sometimes. I discovered this with my mom and grandma, when my grandma was becoming weaker, my mother became angrier. She realized herself it was that she didn't want to admit that was happening to her mom.

 

[Notsowild]

Sorry it took so long for me to [email protected] & @Abstract
I am back working full-time again and I am just exhausted when I get home

Have a frank talk with him about how this accident has effected you and that you are trying to get help for that

We had a good talk. I told him how concerned I was about our relationship and showed him some literature on PTSD. He was very interested and got a lot out of it. He know understands why his Mom I so weird NO... I mean wonderful and a little quirky lol.

I just wonder about your expectations, and your son's expectations.

I don't think we thought about this. He just wanted to help me out. I was only working part time and was not getting any insurance money. Probably about 6 months to a year. I definitely don't want to overstay my welcome