Elsa Hardley
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My sister (and only sibling) and I have always been extremely close, our family has moved around alot and my parents always fought and let us down in general when it came to parenting. They were never there for us on an emotional level and fought all the time so we always kind of looked after each other and kept to ourselves.
The past couple of years my parents have been split up emotionally and sexually, which I now know thanks to my mom, but they still live together, kind of like tenants who have separate rooms and come out to bicker over the dishes, or anything for that matter. My sister and I just went along with the situation I guess, our family doesn't talk maturely or normally about our situation/ many issues except for when someone brings up an issue that's going on but it usually turns into a debate/ full blown fight that can last for hours, get sidetracked and no issues are ever resolved. I'm sure my parents set the dynamic for our family's horrible communication ...it's been like this for years.
I'm 15 and my sister is 17. I'm doing online school this year so the only time I get to see my other friends is when they can get a ride to my house, which is a rare occasion because I live on a small island that's a bit of a drive from the main city and most of my friends from school aren't old enough to drive. I have always been more close to my sister than my friends anyways so I'm used to always hanging out just us two. My sister and I talk about everything together, she's the only person I can open up to or go to when I need to talk about something. We've been basically best friends our whole lives.
About 2 years ago she moved into my room so we could share a room since we always hung out together in one of each others rooms anyways.Whenever both of us are home we're usually together so I didn't think much of sharing a room with her until she started masturbating in our shared bed(which was originally MY bed) the past couple months. We'll be hanging out, talking and laughing or watching movies and stuff in our bed like usual, and then randomly she'll lay down on her side and pull the blanket over her head like shes going to sleep or something and turn and face her back to me and her breathing will become really loud and the bed will start to shake, it's really obvious that shes masturbating.. she also comes to me for advice and tells me about everything so she's told me about how she's having sex all the time with her 9 month boyfriend (he's the first guy she's had sex with) and that he fingers her and gets her off the same way she does in our bed.
At first I was hesitant to confront her because I wasn't sure how she'd react but its pretty damn obvious what's going on, especially because I know her soooo well. I can see her hand moving under the blanket and she'll moan and spazzes randomly, sometimes kicking me -__- Sometimes she'll turn her head to look at me every so often.. to see if I'm noticing I guess.. I've tried confronting her about it quite a few times but she usually just looks embarrassed and stares at me like she doesn't know how to respond before coming up with some half-assed excuse.
I've made it clear to her how I feel about her doing this in our shared bed and she just plays dumb and blows me off every time. Her doing this has greatly affected my relationship with her, as I can't help acting increasingly distant with her when she talks to me right after "sneakily" masturbating right f*cking next to me. It really disgusts me and pisses me off that she does this in our bed. I can't sleep while she's doing it and she does every night sometimes for a couple hours before going to sleep. Since confronting her about it isn't effective I've been getting up and sleeping in her old room on the unmade bed (it's just a mattress no sheets pillows blankets or nothing). All my clothes and stuff are kept in our shared room and she'll often steal my stuff because I leave her alone in there now that she masturbates in the bed.
Since confronting her about it doesn't do anything except make things really weird between us for a little while before it gets brushed under the rug and we go back to normal (our parents set the example for us to do this, it's how they deal with most of their issues) I don't know what to do about it. I'm still pretty overwhelmed by the fact that she would even try to get away with masturbating in our shared bed like damn.. where's the respect.. It changes my perspective on our relationship.
There is no one that I feel I can really trust now. My sister is the only person in my life who's really there for me and I can lean on her when things gets bad. I have always valued our relationship and had loyalty to her above anyone else, but whenever this happens it makes me really uncomfortable and just feels so wrong for her to be doing next to me, I've been pretty messed up inside since it started happening. It's been going on for so long and I even tried talking to my mom about it (definitely the most awkward thing I've ever told her), but she just said that's gross! and not much else before changing the subject..
The past couple of years my parents have been split up emotionally and sexually, which I now know thanks to my mom, but they still live together, kind of like tenants who have separate rooms and come out to bicker over the dishes, or anything for that matter. My sister and I just went along with the situation I guess, our family doesn't talk maturely or normally about our situation/ many issues except for when someone brings up an issue that's going on but it usually turns into a debate/ full blown fight that can last for hours, get sidetracked and no issues are ever resolved. I'm sure my parents set the dynamic for our family's horrible communication ...it's been like this for years.
I'm 15 and my sister is 17. I'm doing online school this year so the only time I get to see my other friends is when they can get a ride to my house, which is a rare occasion because I live on a small island that's a bit of a drive from the main city and most of my friends from school aren't old enough to drive. I have always been more close to my sister than my friends anyways so I'm used to always hanging out just us two. My sister and I talk about everything together, she's the only person I can open up to or go to when I need to talk about something. We've been basically best friends our whole lives.
About 2 years ago she moved into my room so we could share a room since we always hung out together in one of each others rooms anyways.Whenever both of us are home we're usually together so I didn't think much of sharing a room with her until she started masturbating in our shared bed(which was originally MY bed) the past couple months. We'll be hanging out, talking and laughing or watching movies and stuff in our bed like usual, and then randomly she'll lay down on her side and pull the blanket over her head like shes going to sleep or something and turn and face her back to me and her breathing will become really loud and the bed will start to shake, it's really obvious that shes masturbating.. she also comes to me for advice and tells me about everything so she's told me about how she's having sex all the time with her 9 month boyfriend (he's the first guy she's had sex with) and that he fingers her and gets her off the same way she does in our bed.
At first I was hesitant to confront her because I wasn't sure how she'd react but its pretty damn obvious what's going on, especially because I know her soooo well. I can see her hand moving under the blanket and she'll moan and spazzes randomly, sometimes kicking me -__- Sometimes she'll turn her head to look at me every so often.. to see if I'm noticing I guess.. I've tried confronting her about it quite a few times but she usually just looks embarrassed and stares at me like she doesn't know how to respond before coming up with some half-assed excuse.
I've made it clear to her how I feel about her doing this in our shared bed and she just plays dumb and blows me off every time. Her doing this has greatly affected my relationship with her, as I can't help acting increasingly distant with her when she talks to me right after "sneakily" masturbating right f*cking next to me. It really disgusts me and pisses me off that she does this in our bed. I can't sleep while she's doing it and she does every night sometimes for a couple hours before going to sleep. Since confronting her about it isn't effective I've been getting up and sleeping in her old room on the unmade bed (it's just a mattress no sheets pillows blankets or nothing). All my clothes and stuff are kept in our shared room and she'll often steal my stuff because I leave her alone in there now that she masturbates in the bed.
Since confronting her about it doesn't do anything except make things really weird between us for a little while before it gets brushed under the rug and we go back to normal (our parents set the example for us to do this, it's how they deal with most of their issues) I don't know what to do about it. I'm still pretty overwhelmed by the fact that she would even try to get away with masturbating in our shared bed like damn.. where's the respect.. It changes my perspective on our relationship.
There is no one that I feel I can really trust now. My sister is the only person in my life who's really there for me and I can lean on her when things gets bad. I have always valued our relationship and had loyalty to her above anyone else, but whenever this happens it makes me really uncomfortable and just feels so wrong for her to be doing next to me, I've been pretty messed up inside since it started happening. It's been going on for so long and I even tried talking to my mom about it (definitely the most awkward thing I've ever told her), but she just said that's gross! and not much else before changing the subject..
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