Humiliation Freezing You

[Hashi]

And those active steps out of it are hard, hard, hard... I know.

I wish it was different.

 

[The Albatross]

I made the decision to take annual crash courses in "self parenting". Bringing myself into some semblance of maturity where I was or am hindered. I can't make a bigger hash out of it than my parents did I figured.

I'm in my 7th year... I figure a self study a year is a small price to pay for some maturity.

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

@The Albatross how do you take these crash courses? Are they from self-help books? :)

 

[The Albatross]

Just what ever skills I need and weren't modeled or taught (some call it and I have myself "self parenting"):

Recognizing safer people, boundary setting, studying character traits (in my case Godly Character traits), Adult Child of an Alcoholic books, stuff like that. Each year I pick an area and read/study up, and try to apply it where it applies to my life. They are little study things I do for myself but I set it up as a one year goal. Hope that helps? Most are books, some are online and I boost the course with other articles on the topic by reading online.

 

[ms spock]

Are you seeing a professional @Radise ?

 

[ms spock]

I've been battling the feeling of humiliation that my parents battered into me. How did you deal with it?

Thanks :)

Music
Mindfulness
Random Acts of Kindness
Self Soothing.
Reading
Boogie Boarding
Walking around looking at things.
Hanging around positive people who treat each well and are loving and kind to themselves and other people.
Being willing to develop self compassion.
Looking myself in the mirror and praising myself for still being alive through it all. Once a month I do that now but I used to regularly do that.

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

Are you seeing a professional @Radise ?

Not right now, but on friday I have an intake with a new psychiatrist. I have to use the time between now and getting into the trauma center which has a waiting list of five months :dead:

I've felt that going out and "leaving my mind" as it were by engaging with others does help. Especially when it's stuff I love, like a hobby. Maybe finding a new home will also help, better get to it... thank you for the tips :happy:

 

[ms spock]

..friday I have an intake with a new psychiatrist. I have to use the time between now and getting into the trauma center which has a waiting list of five months :dead:

So be kind to yourself in the meantime.

I've felt that going out and "leaving my mind" as it were by engaging with others does help. Especially when it's stuff I love, like a hobby. Maybe finding a new home will also help, better get to it... thank you for the tips :happy:

Great self soothing Radise.

 

[ms spock]

trauma center

Is this in the U.S?

 

[ms spock]

Good luck!

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

Is this in the U.S?

Other side of the Atlantic! (Europe, Netherlands)

 

[ms spock]

Okay how come we have none of these in Australia? But you all do.