How To (positively) Let A Dream Go?

[Whirlwind]

Hi,

I've been trying to explore options in my life one of which is pursuing an old dream. So I put my fears aside and decided to go for it and I have been rejected. Truthfully, I am not surprised but this is also why I decided to try - I think always wondering if I could...well, it has bothered me for a very long time already.

On the upside, now I know, and I really tried, and there is no way around it. This old dream of mine is dead whether I like it or not.

It hurts of course, despite trying not to get excited I was:) Which is not a bad thing I know. But most importantly, I don't want this to linger and sadden me, I want to let it go in a good way, I've had too much sadness in my life and I don't want to add yet another thing on the heap.

I'd welcome any ideas/suggestions or hearing similar experiences.

Thanks for listening! Whirlwind

 

[Jane.l]

Without knowing what you are trying to achieve, I am not sure - would you feel comfortable expanding a little ? - I was going to say that one rejection doesn't mean it's the end of the road but maybe that doesn't apply to your situation?

 

[The Albatross]

I fail epically in the "dream" department... but I find I can sometimes substitute something more realistic and achievable. Can you think of an area, though not a dream, that is on your bucket list? Sometimes that can get me motivated to create a strategy and go after it. It has been a lot of confidence building for me but I have gotten a bit braver.

 

[Whirlwind]

doesn't mean it's the end of the road but maybe that doesn't apply to your situation?

Thanks for asking but it is the end. I have tried several avenues and already "downgraded" to a hopefully more achievable way to get at my dream and this was my recent rejection. I am out of options and one of the issues which I cannot change is my age.

Can you think of an area, though not a dream, that is on your bucket list?

I don't have anything specific right now, some smaller goals/interests I do have. This one was my calling, everyone that knows me attests to that and I was surprised by my husband, he was going to support me in this pipe dream despite the challenges it would bring. So that was something to realize.

Its not the end of the world nor unexpected, I just want to put it to rest in a good way and accept it.

 

[The Albatross]

When one thing ends, sometimes other opportunities come to the fore. I had dreams then didn't dare. I dare a little now, but my expectations are pretty low or realistic depending on my perception of things.