Did Your Abuser Enjoy Abusing You?

[Seagreen]

As the abuse was happening I learned to just shut up and not make any noise or sudden movements as this would really set him off and I would get it a lot worse.

Me too. They enjoy it.

 

[Karen12]

What an interesting question. I am an incest survivor and I don't think my abuser enjoyed it, I think he was conflicted and felt driven to do something that part of him knew was wrong. I don't know a lot about his past but I did hear him say once that his mother beat him every day. I am also a rape survivor and the rapist definitely enjoyed it.

I'm amazed you are exploring this so early on, ghotiff. I don't think I could even have considered this if I didn't have 30+ years between me and the events now.

 

[ghotiff]

I'm amazed you are exploring this so early on, ghotiff. I don't think I could even have considered this if I didn't have 30+ years between me and the events now.

I'm new to processing but I started late :)

The abuse ended decades ago.

 

[Deleted member 28403]

One of those who bullyed me was a sadistic person, a complete psychopath.

Right now I can't get his twisted face out of my mind. He was violent and malicious. Had need to put people on lower tiers than he is.

My dad once saw his mother and described her as "A cold, psychopathic person, displaying no emotions at all no matter what, looking at everyone as if they were lower beings, heartless".

The bully certainly enjoyed seeing me in pain.

 

[shell]

My first therapist said she took pleasure from torturing me, him telling me that made me feel ill, but really how can someone really tell what motivates another without knowing them.

She was just a sick twisted bitch.

 

[blade runner]

hello , just joined today , my name is mally , i also was abused over 40 years ago ,and only recently told my doctor , i,m 54 now ,this thread hit home

 

[Lucycat]

I cannot see why he did it other than for his own enjoyment. I thought that was the whole point - for him to get his 'kicks'.

 

[Rumors]

Yep, he liked it and that is part of what makes me sick to my stomach. It was a control thing...

 

[The Albatross]

Yeah they did. The only one who showed remorse was my father when I was about 35. Other than that... yeah, they "enjoyed" it on more than one level. On the other hand it gives me pause when I perceive someone inflicting intentional pain on people that is abusive or boarders on it and I am most often the one to call it out unabashedly.

 

[Nyssa]

I think they both enjoyed it, yes. Differently, though.

My father enjoyed hurting me. He took visible pleasure in terrorizing me.

My brother enjoyed the sexual component of it. But in order to enjoy himself, he had to convince himself he was doing me no harm.

At least, this is how I see it. But hey, what do I know? I can not fully grasp what goes on in perverted minds like theirs.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

My father was my main abuser and I believe he was a sadist and really enjoyed hurting me. Actually all of my abusers really enjoyed abusing me.

 

[dnp]

Yes, absolutely they did.