@ghotiff
A bad counseling behavior (T asking, to use different descriptors)
To clarify, I meant client's words are like jewels to therapist, so for therapists to ask clients to stop using some words (is controlling and implying the words of the client, and hence the client isn't acceptable), is like tossing something valuable away. On the other hand, to ask a client to "do you want to tell me more', 'do you want elaborate'? Oh, I loved when one of my therapists said this.
Re: mild to severe dissociative triggers: yes, I too have more choice with milder ones.
Re: whether therapy triggers me; as mentioned, I naively worked with a therapist who's approach was to trigger me, and it was damaging. Now, I need the T to respect my boundary triggers', stop the triggering behavior, and keep things mild, as well to stop and help me re-associate before the session's end. I get triggered enough ( exposure therapy of sorts) in the world; I need a restorative haven in therapy. (I am aware that even well intentioned person can trigger me from time to time.)
Re: two other resources: in looking for better therapists or psychiatrists in (private practice);
- some therapists and psychiatrists specialize in woman who have dealt with traumatic births. (Google the topic: something like Providers working with post traumatic birth) This group of Providers are often open to women and men who are dealing with trauma. The one I met helps give a protective rather than a challenging atmosphere. (Unfortunately, this T didn't work on my day off.)
- Also, psychiatrists and therapists, who have modern psychoanalytic training, aren't stuffy, listen open-endedly, provide support, and that atmosphere for me, gives me a creative space to develop my own emotional intelligence.
I'm grateful for everyone and the topic. Thanks!
