Should I Celebrate My Birthday?

[littlelostchild]

@Beachlife09 you do matter!

Choose whatever will be best for you. You survived, don't let those buggers continue to rule your life.

I hope you have a good day.

 

[littlelostchild]

Can you make the celebration for part of the day, so it isn't too overwhelming?

 

[Beachlife09]

@littlelostchild Ummm..... i think i might be able to... i'd have to ask my family if we could try that, but that might be the best thing to do. Thank you for the suggestion! :hug:

 

[Ronin]

Is it possible to exclude family? Say you're having plans with friends, head out?

 

[Beachlife09]

@Kaia Well it'd be a bit difficult to do that seeing as i live with them and have like no social life anymore lol

 

[Beachlife09]

i just can't decide if it would be worse if i did as They would want me to do and not even acknowledge it, or celebrate and feel like They're gonna pop out of the walls and punish me for "forgetting my place".

To celebrate, or not to celebrate. That is the question! (lol :p)

 

[Ronin]

Live with them, noted. But they still don't know of absolutely everything you do with everyone, so it's not impossible to be having new friends they just wouldn't happen to know of.

Your place? Wherever you decide that is.

 

[Beachlife09]

Wherever you decide that is.

*Sigh* i wish it was that easy. But maybe i could try to use my birthday as a good launching pad of not obeying them anymore. (That's a crazy thought) Thank You for Your support :hug:

 

[joeylittle]

or celebrate and feel like They're gonna pop out of the walls and punish me for "forgetting my place".

The thing is, some part of you knows that they won't - even if it's not a very loud part of you. If everything else is feeling pretty stable, and you can make a skills list to help you out, I would say challenge yourself to it. If you need to, set up an exit plan in advance - best would be if you had a friend who knew that you might have anxiety, just someone to kind of decompress with sometimes.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Celebrate it.

Or continue to let them win.

Your choice.

 

[Beachlife09]

Well thank You to everyone who responded! You all encouraged me so much and i thought You'd like to know that i decided to celebrate :D And as @littlelostchild advised; i am going to celebrate for only half a day in public and then relax the rest of the day.

Again, thank You to all! :hug:

 

[WildMermaid]

hugs and happy birthday :)