Lifelong Incontinence

[WierdUnkleMike]

I have been incontinent my entire life for the most part with about 70% functionality, which isn't too bad, but just just frustrating enough to drive me crazy. Worse, I don't know where to draw the diagnostic line - whether this is caused by early trauma and neglect in infancy or whether its a symptom of my schizoaffective disorder, which I also have, or both. Its like I live with an 18 month old baby whose not quite ready for potty training all the time, and I've got to change his diapers every day, day in, and day out - and he is me! Sometimes I can coaxes him to the toilet and he's a good boy for me, but a lot of times he's just a little brat. Its the nature of the fragmenting of personality in the schizophrenias I guess. I'm more accepting of this now than before because I just accept it as my lot in life. And the more accepting I can be, the less likely I will be to have episodes of mania and therefore trauma, which is no good at all for my PTSD, which is always a concern. I just try to keep calm, and carry on. Thanks for reading.

:)

 

[Stickler]

You have been checked for physical damage?
Just asking.
If you were abused as an infant you may have physical damage causing incontinence, in which case there * might* be a medical answer.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thanks for the courage and bravery you showed in sharing your problem here. I have my own health issues which I have also accepted and it is my lot in life.

Carry on and go with your good self. Cyber hugs.

 

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@WierdUnkleMike

Welcome!

are you wanting feedback from us?

 

[WierdUnkleMike]

@WierdUnkleMike

Welcome!

are you wanting feedback from us?

Yea I like feedback. By the way, I have been checked by doctors and there is some physical damage, but there's not much that can be done about it. Mostly its a psychiatric condition that's irreversible. Encouragement from others always feels good.

 

[LChP]

Yea I like feedback. By the way, I have been checked by doctors and there is some physical damage...

Hello,
I have the same issue, through and through. I can't live any longer, it's been years and never got better only worse. It's always 'oh there must be physical damage = medical fix' from people (not the answer!) or my fault because I don't do f* kegel exercises enough (not true!) or whatever else and I am so, so alone and can no longer do anything or go anywhere. Of course there is a range of other ordeals such as self-harm, self-hatred, addictions, binge-eating, but I have been working so hard to get everything better and under control and this is one of the last things, shaming me and giving me no chance of truly healing and enjoying life, finally, at the age of 37 I would like to have a shot at happiness. Anyhow. Good luck...
LChP