Getting Beyond Coping

[tryingtofly]

I have no where to go and I am not functioning enough to go to a shelter. Honestly, I dont care anymore. I have been abused my whole life. There's not much left of my mind. I do as much as I can to keep myself safe. To help myself. Learn how to cope. Learn how to get through nights like these so my kids have a mom. Idk. These feelings will pass. I will get back up and keep trying.

 

[The Albatross]

Well okay that's honest... a starting place. I can respect that. Wish/hope better for you and the children though, 'k?

 

[The Albatross]

http://www.cognitivehealing.com/personal-growth/coping-with-domestic-abuse/

 

[tryingtofly]

Thanks

 

[tryingtofly]

" Physicians are now mandated to report if they suspect domestic violence or abuse when their patients come for medical checkup. " quote from the article in the link about domestic violence. I have confided in so many doctors about what he has done to me. Apparently they did not believe me because they did not report it or help me otherwise. No one cares and no one will help. The local domestic violence shelter here will not take me because they do not have staff who are trained to help someone with suicidal ideation. Not lying. That is the truth. This whole shitty Planet of people have abandoned me. Everyone looks the other way like i do not exist. like Im just some stupid mentally ill house wife making shit up. No one believes me. No one cares.

 

[tryingtofly]

An when you tell people your sucky situation, that your be abused. They want noting more to do with you.

 

[The Albatross]

Honey even when I called the cops in the 80's they looked the other way... and I was black eyed and bloody.

 

[The Albatross]

Plenty here been abused, but I was one of several in my "group" then. We were lucky, we survived, though one friend got kicked in the stomach/beaten when she was pregnant and lost their child. One of our peers with shot in a murder/suicide which took place in front of her four kids. She bled out in front of them dying/DOA after her husband shot her and then shot himself in the head. Made us (those dealing with abusive spouses/partners) stand up and take notice. One stayed, three got out.

 

[tryingtofly]

I realize I am not the "only " woman has been abused. I know others have gone through much worse then I and survived. I have the right to feel the way " I " do and no one has the right to minimize my feelings and situation. I am not here looking for sympathy or pity. Just understanding and maybe some compassion, especially when I'm having a hard time coping. I am just someone who has no one for support and someone who is trying to help herself.

 

[Friday]

I have the right to feel the way " I " do and no one has the right to minimize my feelings and situation

I don't see where anyone has done that in this thread? Am I missing something? All I see are people sharing their own experiences & journeys & common ground, which is a difficult thing to do for many if not most, in an attempt to help. Sharing one's own experiences doesn't negate anyone else's.

 

[tryingtofly]

I don't see where anyone has done that in this thread? Am I missing something? All I see are people...

Thank you for pointing this out. I have spent my life having others criticize everything I say and do. I used to think it was just them, but now I see it was Me being wrong the whole time.. Most likely the reason I am without friends and my family doesn't like me. I think I will go hide back under my rock were I belong. Thank you for all of the kindness and compassion.

 

[Friday]

You're jumping to a whole lot of conclusions...

- I never said you were wrong
- I'm not criticizing you
- I never brought up anything about your past, much less patterns in your past repeating in the present, what those patterns might be, or the validity of anything I never brought up.

I asked a question. Instead of taking that question at face value and answering it, you've interpreted it to mean a whole lot of things I didn't mean.