Never Thought I Would Need To Say This...

[fuzzypenguin]

...again. But I guess it's my fault. Always appears like it's my fault no matter what I do or say.

 

[shimmerz]

Is that you speaking or someone(s) else? If someone else, you may want to try hanging with different people if you can.

 

[fuzzypenguin]

I've been told by different people concerning two different situations I'm hinting at that it was my fault.

 

[Tinyflame]

Hi @fuzzypenguin, I understand. But one thing you aren't is responsible for others' thoughts, words or actions. Or their judgment. Especially judgment based out of ignorance. You can only do the best you can, which is substantially made harder by others running you down, or yourself running you down too.

:hug:

 

[fuzzypenguin]

Good to know. But what do I do when they turn everything back on me? And blame me for something I did not even start? @Junebug

 

[Friday]

Sometimes things are our fault.

That's life. The idea that nothing is our fault is as wrong as the idea that everything is our fault.

 

[Tinyflame]

Emotionally detach, for yourself. And if able concisely point out just that. Then, do something to decompress.

 

[Tinyflame]

Oops cross-posted. And like @FridayJones said, if you feel responsible say so, take responsibility, & try to apologize & make amends.

Idk, sometimes I've been told I'm not responsible for things I think I am. Or that my negative influence/ deficiencies/ptsd/ self (yikes, can't think of the word, 'myself') doesn't cause the harm I fear it does or could.

 

[fuzzypenguin]

Sometimes things are our fault.

That's life. The idea that nothing is our fault is as wrong...

I do not believe that

 

[joeylittle]

@fuzzypenguin - you don't believe that you could ever be at fault? Or you do not believe, in the circumstances you are referring to, that you are at fault?

If you don't believe you are at fault, then do you know what is actually bothering you? Is it that others believe a falsehood, or something else?

 

[fuzzypenguin]

@fuzzypenguin - you don't believe that you could ever be at fault? Or you do not...

I know I'm at fault for things in my life, but in these two circumstances there's no way I could be at fault. I will verbally blame myself for the assault- one of the things- but for the other, I didn't do anything and was attacked then blamed.

 

[joeylittle]

I didn't do anything and was attacked then blamed.

Can you allow yourself to know this, and not take on-board whomever it is that is blaming you?