Shadows In The Midst Of Flames

[The Albatross]

My own mister's psyche story was that he wanted to rewrite his childhood upbringing... so he chose a partner that was damaged by trauma and physically ill. He saw himself as the "white knight"/protector and when he fell short into his own depressive cycling... then I began to recover and take my equal role back... it shook the apples off the tree for a while?

 

[The Albatross]

The common theme for both of us was the paramount of our bond. He and I both chose individually to keep the bond.

 

[The Albatross]

Prattled on a bit... hopefully assistive. How you feeling now?

 

[The Albatross]

On the re-read, forgot to give you kudos for pausing in the midst of all the kitchen doings to mindfully give care to your daughter who accidently wet herself. That is a definite optimistic note. You disconnected from all the immediacy and stress to lovingly care for your daughter's situation. Awesome.

 

[Ironlady]

You have been very gracious with your time and openness this morning... don't want to over tax you....

Thank you so much Albatross, for taking time to help me get out of the emotional hamster wheel at least partly anyway. One leg is on solid ground at least. I need some time to meditate on this one. You have given me a lot of progressive thinking strategies and insightful questions to ask myself and to consider. You yourself have been very generous with your time and I am very appreciative of your time and energy and wisdom. This is very helpful.

 

[Ironlady]

Prattled on a bit... hopefully assistive. How you feeling now?

Better.. Not feeling as fretful or desperate.

 

[The Albatross]

Document somewhere... on or off line your reactions today and when life snaps you on the ass... ground yourself with your own conclusions. That's where self efficacy comes from gal.

 

[Ironlady]

On the re-read, forgot to give you kudos for pausing in the midst of all the kitchen doings to mind...

Thank you.. I really..REALLY want to do right by my children. I don't want to further this cycle of abuse.

 

[The Albatross]

In a nutshell... part of defeating the hardwired reactivity is being open to creating new and more beneficial ways of thinking and perceiving... you definitely demonstrated that here today gal.

 

[The Albatross]

Have you ever seen the challenge of Shawn Achor's Happiness advantage? It is a 26-30 day challenge and very beneficial, we did it as a group here several times a while ago. Going to get it, it's in my media.

 

[Ironlady]

Document somewhere... on or off line your reactions today and when life snaps you on the ass... gro...

Ok. Lol. I like your visual. ;) I will practice doing that from now on and focus on the follow through.. Thank you.

 

[Ironlady]

Have you ever seen the challenge of Shawn Achor's Happiness advantage? It is a 26-30 day challenge...

No I haven't.. Sounds like it would be a positive constructive practice to take on.