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Company Trying To Make Me Resign

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Notsowild

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I haven't been on this site for awhile. I've been trying to go through this PTSD alone. But it's been so hard. Still working at the same company with the same bad boss. My Human Rights case against them comes up in April. At our last meeting they wanted me to resign. Against all the HR rules. But now I feel unwanted by them. I've been a good employee for this company. I did not ask for this disorder. I still do my job well. I assume my accommodation has been a " pain in the butt" for them.

Haven't been sleeping well and my confidence is low and my anxiety is sky high. I guess what I need is some support and any advice on this.

Thanks. I've missed you guys.
 
Sometimes it's harder to work for an employer who wants rid of you? It causes a lot more stress that you can imagine.

I've been in a position where I was essential, but because I was a subcontractor, and not a member of the management team, they made life harder for me to do the job concerned.

Of course there came a time when my part in the project came to an end, and I got all their praise and thanks, but I knew it was all false. But because I knew I would never be back there again, I let them know that, before I left?

You should have seen all the embarrassed faces and "floor checking with their shoes" as I left the office
 
Thanks @Gadgie... Lol that's what I'd like to do to my employer when I leave too.

I was just thinking I have more years in the company than these three managers combined. But they just sit back in their offices and say " She's too much of a headache, let's get rid of her".
 
I admire how long you have been dealing with this problem and still working. It is completely unfair for them to try to force you out. It is not your fault. Before I knew I had PTSD, I was forced to resign from a job because I was "too shy". It was really because the person I worked with didn't like the way I did things (which in my opinion was better than his- yelling and shaming kids doesn't work and I would actually talk with the kids and help them understand their directions to assignments). It's horrible how people in higher up positions abuse their power.

I had to take a leave of absence from my work because it was too much. I could teach okay, but I couldn't get through meetings. And then, by the time I got home, I had no energy left for myself. I am supposed to go back next year, my position is being held and unlike in the past I have supportive employers. For me it's a question of whether I will be able to do a good job any more in my current place in my journey of PTSD.

I don't know if any of that helps you. I just wanted you to know that I am routing for you with whatever you decide is best for you. Only resign if you think that would be best for you and don't let them force you to. You know your rights. Just try weighing out pros and cons of staying for your own sake and see if you can figure out what will be best for you. If you can find another option, then maybe it would be better to resign and go somewhere where you can be appreciated. But if that doesn't seem like and option and you're up for staying put then choose that regardless of what they try to do. Wish there was an easy answer!
 
I only joined about a month and a half ago so i dont know what your Human Rights suit is about? I also dont what line of work or what the laws are in Canada?

Here in the States, every State has different employement laws/reasons one can be terminated. And in the State i live in, it can be for any reason; they only have to have a job related reason to say thats why you're fired.

Ive been asked to leave a job before and i refuse. Want me out then you will a legal reason to fire me, and then you're gonna likely have to pay me unemployment.

I work as an internet and PC tech support rep on the phone (aka: the person you scream at, at the top of your lungs to because you dont know that you're computer needs to be turned on, on that wifi DOESNT mean it doesnt need to be connected to the wall) so very stressful.

Anxiety is my only issue at work; i supress everything else. So my therapist fills out the paperwork every 6 months for FMLA; 2 extra breaks a day when needed and i have anxiety meds.

I imagine, if i had a law suit against a company i still worked for they'd want me out; BUT im very strong willed and bull headed (as most now know here lol) and i make them fire me; and it better not have a trace of illegal in or they'd have another law suit the deal with.

But thats just me. Sorry you have to deal with this! I know its hard, we all have to have a roof and eat some how!
 
Hi @Notsowild, so glad you are back, reaching out for support. I remember how awful it was with your employer. I'm amazed you have endured them for this long.
My Human Rights case against them comes up in April. At our last meeting they wanted me to resign. Against all the HR rules.
Document this, in as much detail as you can. Even just in your own notes. I don't know the rules and regulations in your country, but most Human Rights regulations come with protections against retaliation written right into the same regulations, because it happens a lot. Corrupt people who make mistakes and don't tend responsibility for them and end up having human rights cases against them are often the same kind of people that will do stupid and ridiculous things to get rid of anyone they see as even a possible whistle blower. It won't help you much to endure right now the hell of what sounds like a hostile working environment... but maybe it would help your case all the more in April.

I filed a administrative civil rights case against a screwed up organization myself. They made my life as an employee a living hell after I filed, and they too tried to get me to resign. Usually people are offered the option to resign before they get fired. Somehow, they didn't fire me, but it was incredibly painful to endure that season.

In the end, I did end up leaving, but not because they pressured me to leave anymore. Even after they were fined and they changed how they did things, they remained an unhealthy organization. It took an on-going toll on my mental health to stay. The challenges I faced by leaving were really tough, but it was worth it to get out of there. I didn't realize even how much I had gotten used to the dysfunction there until I finally got out and was working for a better organization. It was still a scary thing to do, as there were so many unknowns when I left that job.

As for the hell they gave me when I stayed, I documented (and tape recorded when it was legal to do so) everything that happened, and when they came time to defend themselves for the original problem, the original case against them, they got in just as much trouble for all the crap they gave me.

You deserve to work in a place where people want you and value you for being the person of good character that you are. You have PTSD for not fault of your own, and you had the courage to ask for the accommodations you needed to do your job well. You didn't just stuff it and short change your employer from the best job you could do for them, you asked for what you needed so that you could be the best employee that you could be. So many people would never do that. They would find some way to just skate by or hide their weaknesses. Instead, you owned what wasn't your strength and asked for what you needed to do an even better job than you were doing. You have a lot to be proud of, and I think you would probably be a great asset for a healthy company.

Corrupt people generally want to get rid of the good and honest people in an organization. It's the kind of situation where like attracts like. If you were just as screwed up as them, they would probably want you to stay. It hurts to have people express that they don't want you to stay, but instead of taking it as a sign of something that is wrong with you, take it as a badge of honor. Because in the end, this kind of stuff really says a lot about them, and very little about you other than verifying that no, you are not like them at all. And it's a good thing.

It would really stink if you do end up resigning or losing your job, but maybe it's a door to a better place to work. I hope it is.
 
Thanks @JEKBreatheandBelieve...how have you been doing?

. "If you can find another option, then maybe it would be better to resign and go somewhere where you can be appreciated. But if that doesn't seem like and option and you're up for staying put then choose that regardless of what they try to do. Wish there was an easy answer!"

I am too scared to find another job. At least at this job all my co-workers know about my PTSD and some are very supportive to me. To think about trying to find another job is very anxiety-ridden for me. Then I'll have to keep it hidden and hope no symptoms emerge.
 
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I only joined about a month and a half ago so i dont know what your Human Rights suit is about...

My Human Rights is " Mental discrimination in the workplace". My employer ignored all my Doctors notes about my disorder then suspended me over an incident involving me and my verbally abusive boss.

Yes in Canada it is " retaliation" to try and get someone to resign while going through a HR case. Not to sure what will happen to them now. I guess I'll see in April. Meanwhile I still have to work with them.
 
Yes in Canada it is " retaliation" to try and get someone to resign while going through a HR case. Not to sure what will happen to them now. I guess I'll see in April. Meanwhile I still have to work with them.

Well there you go.

I know it sucks to work in a place where stress is high; trust me i know, but just the way i am, you're gonna have to find a legal way to fire me cuz i aint quiting, not a quiter and i would stay there just to spite them...but thats me.

My Human Rights is " Mental discrimination in the workplace". My employer ignored all my Doctors notes about my disorder then suspended me over an incident involving me and my verbally abusive boss.

Sorry that happened!

I dont know if the US has mental health rights, if not it should.

Crap, with the Affordable Care Act (aka ObamaCare) its actually made my health care worse, and higher. My company ripped our PPO away and forced us on a health savings plan that the company pays part of the deductiable and its way more.

And they are stricter of mental health coverage when it was supposed to make health care easier. We need Canada-like health care or something but not what we have.

Id pay higher taxes to have health care abilities all the time.

That verbally abusive boss should be fired.

Can you record his/her verbal abuse on a phone to document it? Not sure if thats leagal there, here the person being recorded has to know they are being recorded to be legal (not sure what the use of that is) or the police/FBI whatever has to be involved like in the Jared Fogel case (Subway guy; piece of crap).

Id document everything in the best and most legal way possible, if you're not already. Prove that the boss is making it worse.
 
Thanks @Justmehere...its good to be back.
and you had the courage to ask for the accommodations you needed to do your job well.
The problem with my accommodation is its mainly about my abusive managers relationship with me. She's not allowed to talk to me unless there is a co-worker with us. We are supposed to have weekly meeting ( with a co -worker present) to discuss any problems I might be having. She just started doing these after our Human Resources and my psychiatrist told her to. This was 4 months after a revised accomadatiion. So she hates these meetings, though she plays the " nice boss " role for me. So I'm taking up her time and making her job more difficult. All her fault but she doesn't she it that way. So much easier to get my to resign. Plus add the Human Rights case on top of that, I'm on their most hated emplyee list.
It hurts to have people express that they don't want you to stay, but instead of taking it as a sign of something that is wrong with you, take it as a badge of honor. Because in the end, this kind of stuff really says a lot about them, and very little about you other than verifying that no, you are not like them at all. And it's a good thing.
I love love love this. Very inspirational for me. I'm going to think about this always during the next few months. Thank you so much
 
:meh: I feel like I am in this same boat in ways. I've been employed with my same employer, including a job change that has in ways been good in on way and exremely challenging in others.

The irony I am struggling with is whether or not to request accomodations, which a few unofficial are being granted despite being written officially, I am again doing research towards disability case and in so doing I found some accomodation options, one of which would require me to get Winnie vested for public Access, there are several issues I have with this given that I am in a few areas that I go where she would be disallowed because of safety and food safety issues.

The constant for me is that I am continually beaten down emotionally and my self worth and everything is ground down to rock bottom.
 
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