Sexual Abuse, Age 7-, It Felt Good.

[Adobe]

(Nejoba again)



So, initially, we have an 8-10 reenacting abuse that he has experienced himself? That doesn't excuse wh...

Thank you so much, I can feel your care in your comments. He wasn't abused, he was just an emotionally messed up being. He had depression, intermittent explosive disorder, and he went through a lot of difficulties as a child that were similar to mine. Bullying, cultural change, and stuff like that. He's now an alcoholic depressed guy under my manipulative over caring parents' guide. He's sick but he's a poor one. It's complicated.

I have no idea for the latter one. I grew up in Korea and I doubt they have great sex ed. My mom was raped before marriage so she was avoidant in bringing the topics up, so we were never really taught about anything close to sex or sex ed I guess (Which is why I am trying to get over my sexual assaults. I don't want to pass them on to the younger generation if I ever get to have kids.). Everything you're saying is right though. He is responsible of what he is doing.

 

[Garu]

According to most of the sex & sexuality research I've read; most children experiment with their bodies with siblings or close friends around age 3-7. "Playing doctor" is the colloquialism for it, and it's harmless / normal. It feels good, so kids do it, the same way they eat ice cream or play on a swingset. It's no more sexual-sexual than toddler girls learning to orgasm during potty training (keigles, and breath holding, trying not to wet their pants), clitoral stimulation with car seat straps; or toddler boys playing with their handle, making their penis fat in the bath; or both with playground kisses or the cheek & running away, etc. The same way kids spin in circles, jump off of high things, eat sweets, roll down hills, etc. Can't stress enough normal kids experimenting with everything is, especially things that feel good.

That you enjoyed it in the beginning? That it was a fun thing to do? Really normal.

Where it progresses beyond normal childhood experimentation & into abuse requires something extra; an adult or a sexually abused kid... Which takes things from normal miles and miles beyond the line. An adult, always. Another kid? Really tends to depend on the kid how far they take things. Some who are being violently abused only ever share the "fun" parts with siblings and friends, others who are still in the grooming process with their abusers get really violent, and everything in between.

 

[Adobe]

According to most of the sex & sexuality research I've read; most children experiment with their bodies with siblings or c...

I was knowledgeable of the child sex exploring thing, but never saw it that way. Thank you for explaining, really made much more sense. Now I'm really thankful that I found this site. I had this uncomfortable feeling whenever I would frame this as sexual abuse because I felt I held a portion of responsibility.

For some reason although my brother was quite violent normally, he never forced me into it. He would just... constantly try to get me involved into it by touching my other body parts (oh wait this sounds like abuse too). Then sometimes break into my room and touch me while I'm sleeping if I hold up for too long. Anyways no physical violence involved whatsoever. Maybe that's what they call grooming? New to the term also..