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Genital Surgery: Ever Heard Of Hypospadias?

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Im not a guy or anything so cant relate
but i thought id throw this in. Someone invented a device to grow forskin back. Im thinking that cant feel too good but hey, to each his own.

Although the proportions are different, the external stuff all develops from the same basic structures. You can probably get a fairly approximate idea.

I've actually been looking into tissue expansion

Unfortunately it can never replace highly sensitive structures that have been destroyed, or replace mucous membranes, where there's not enough left to stretch. Or repair extensive scarring.

That said, even small increases in skin cover make a huge difference.

It also can't undo over half a century of PTSD
 
It can somewhat, or so the guys stated on the thing i was watching about it. It stretches the skin over time and gives back a ton of sensitivity; not all but a lot.
It turns out that the ridged bands on the inside of a foreskin and the frenulum, both ofwhich get destroyed, are more sensitive than the glans.

Covering the glans with stretched skin from the shaft, does protect it from abrasion, and protects its covering of mucous membrane from drying out and keratinizing.

That is where the increased sensitivity is coming from.

The most sensitive structures are gone for ever though, and a great deal of sexual dysfunction remains as a result of the reduced stimulus.
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The level of sexual dysfunction really comes across if you compare American teenage humour genre films with ones from continental Europe, where male genital mutilation is pretty much restricted to religious minorities.
 
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so cant relate

A woman could probably relate some if the hood on her clitoris were to be removed surgically or by accident. The moist cushion and pleasure nerves inside the hood would be gone, exposing the glans to friction and drying out, leading to a very painful condition. Believe it or not, some "boutique" plastic surgeons offer that, claiming that it enhances appearance and pleasure sensations.
 
It turns out that the ridged bands on the inside of a foreskin and the frenulum, both ofwhich get destroyed, are more sensitive than the glans.

And though sensitive in itself, some research speculates that the glans is mostly there to help the more sensitive foreskin keep its shape.
 
Psh whatever! They do it in Africa as a way of ritual type stuff :(

In Africa and other countries yes, sometimes to a horrific degree of danger and destruction. But especially now in the U.S. women are subject to "Female Genital Enhancement" which amounts to elective surgery to: reduce or enlarge the labia, reduce the hood or move the clitoris, and otherwise "perfect" the woman's body.

Pornography often displays a childish model of what sexy genitals should look like, without actually depicting how they feel. And unfortunately, some women, and maybe even more men, insist on "improving" appearance, by cutting through exquisite natural tissues.

It may eventually become as common as boob jobs, and may likewise be more evidence of a husband's or boyfriend's silly fantasy than of the vanity or insecurity of the women.

I consider it all a perverted racket, so I am very prejudiced. It is not just another freaky thing done in Africa.
 
I speak as a woman. I know about hypospadias and the other form epispadias

Thanks @Lucycat Having your perspective, both as a member of the opposite sex, and from a professional perspective is invaluable. I am so embroiled in my experiences through a child's and man's eyes, personally I would find it really helpful to hear more from another view point and your professional experience.

Another related condition is chordee

Yes - I have this condition too. From reading my medical notes it appears I had two operations to try and correct it (one age 3 and another aged 14). It wasn't a total success but I assume made some improvement. As was typical of my experience in hospital, being told I had cordee could have been handled better. I had been required to be photographed with an erection and a few days later was told somewhat abruptly by a doctor that I had a bent penis. I was 13 or 14 at the time. The weird thing is I had never noticed it before, not having compared mine with anyone else's. I was upset to discover I had yet another deformity, it was another nail in the coffin of my self esteem. It cemented my belief that I was so deformed that any girl who saw me would either throw up, laugh or run away screaming. I convinced myself that could never have a girl friend, or be married - who would want a monster like me. Recall the scene from the film The Elephant Man, where he is exhibited to a medical audience, that is precisely how it felt to me.

It is these perceptions that a boy in my situation needed help with, support and kindness. Had I been provided with sensitive counselling, had it explained to me that the human form comes in wondrous variety, and that within that variety, I didn't look so different at all - well who knows......I honestly believe it might have saved me from the distress that followed and shaped my life. I wonder if this need for counselling is still being missed, for boys having the surgery at a later age. The secrecy and embarrassment doesn't help.

I have been involved in professional/parent discussions about whether the conditions should be treated as an infant or wait for the child to be old enough to consent. I know which I prefer, but can appreciate that it is very hard for parents to allow such intimate surgery on their child

Personally I am convinced that getting the corrective surgery done at a very young age is the best option, based on my own and my son's experience. When I was a child, parents weren't allowed to stay with young children in hospital (I was in care until I was age 5, so I was stuck on my own anyway) and I think the valid concern about separation anxiety meant surgery was delayed until the child was older. Now parents can stay with their children in hospital (as we did with my son) I support early intervention. And of course surgical outcomes are generally much better.

but also have a friend who's son has hypospadias and as a teenager now presents with behavioural problems which I suspect stem from this . I suspect that his hospital appointments, surgeries and the disappointment demonstrated by his parents have all contributed to his struggles now.

This really saddens me, truly it does. The thought of some kid feeling like I did, and still do is so tragic. I hope his parents recognise the underlying cause and can get him some help, somebody to talk to him and help him to open up about it. There is a support forum, Hypospadias UK. They might be able to offer some help, if he or his parents contacted them.

Thanks for your input, It's really appreciated.
 
I missed the second trouma .. Sorry for asking ? But if eel like it Mit will you tell us more about this part ... Only if you feel save to do so. Or many you have told it on another thread ..

Hey @Nikie Please don't apologise for asking. I have written about this elsewhere, I'll try to find it and post you a link. It's a very difficult thing to talk about and although directly related to my having hypospadias, it's probably a bit off topic for this thread.

What I can say is that the repeated surgery, constantly being examined, exposed, having painful things done to my genitals, all had an adverse and profound affect on me.

One of the worst experiences was having my penis sprayed with a freezing aerosol, to stop me from having an erection, after the nurse had washed and cleaned the wound. They did this each day for two weeks, and again during a following stay in hospital. There was one nurse in particular that did it who was incredibly insensitive, cold, uncaring, a bully. The first time she did it she sprayed for so long it burnt the skin, like frost bite. I hated just lying there naked whilst they did this, it was humiliating and very painful and I felt ashamed.

These experiences.....triggered some weird behaviours in me. When I was a teenager I started acting out (on myself, in private) the most humiliating experiences done to me in hospital, and sexualising them. I feel ashamed about it, and I don't want to cause offence, so it's hard to explain. I'd describe it as sexual self harm, sexual humiliation. I continued it into adult life and a few years ago it caused me and my family serious problems.

I have always blamed myself for evolving these behaviours. I felt I must be weak willed, abnormal, a freak, emotionally as well as physically. And I believed that other boys and men would not have reacted in the same way, they would have coped better, without developing weird behaviours as I did. It has been a very isolating experience.

For me this probably the most profound consequence of having hypospadias, the most damaging.
 
I have written about this elsewhere, I'll try to find it and post you a link.

I would gladly read it if you sent me the link thank you might understand stuff better then..


What I can say

In some line in the next few paragraphs strangely I was triggered and I can not explain thanx for writing .. Please forgive if I don't reply ..

But big:hug::hug::hug:. For all the shit you went trough by some as hole woman that were not a woman's name worth !!!
 
Hi @Nikie I'm so sorry you were triggered by my post. I really do understand, please don't apologise. I am always very wary about describing these events for fear of causing upset.

Thank you your comments about the nurse. I have to agree with you. But it's only fair to say that there were many very kind nurses who looked after me too.

I hope you are ok :hug:
 
But especially now in the U.S. women are subject to "Female Genital Enhancement" which amounts to elective surgery to: reduce or enlarge the labia, reduce the hood or move the clitoris, and otherwise "perfect" the woman's body.

I missed this. Speaking from my past being told 'its the only good thing about about me' what's perfect exactly?

Just like men differ in size, shape, right or left...so do women.

I feel SOOO bad for the women in Africa, i unfortantly know somewhat of how much that hurts, though something wasnt completely cut off; poor women and girls :(

Sorry if this is TMI, i had thought of doing the labia thing just from comfort but not to look any particular way and the women doing that ARE NUTS and i dont get why, i find myself looking a bit different but men dont seem to care so whatevs. Now if men were like 'ewwww' (i dont think thats in a man's vacab when it comes to that laby part lol) but if they were maybe i would struggle w/ it somewhat?

I dunno but have not a clue why women get that done unless medically necessary or something. But its a free country (mostly) so no one is forcing that on them. Im sure just like most body stuff they have to get a psyc eval done, or at least i hope, so i dunno. But the women in Africa, thats forced on them :(
 
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