Mother

[Chava]

This mother BS is being put on the back burner. If she wants a relationship with me and will go to therapy with me, then it will be when she doesn't need/want material/living quarters. It will be when I am recovered from surgery and she has a stable living quarter.

Super healthy boundary-making! Good work! :)

 

[Friday]

This mother BS is being put on the back burner. If she wants a relationship with me and will go to therapy with me, then it will be when she doesn't need/want material/living quarters. It will be when I am recovered from surgery and she has a stable living quarter.

Yay!!!! :D Hell yes. Love this. Like x1,000 Exactly right.

We exchange texts and calls off the squad. I learn that my mother is living with him and it was only suppose to be temporary and she is driving him and his family insane.

<chuckling> I have to say... That even the idea that "I'm going to be living with Bookoffee!" Mom says to bro... Inspires bro calling a wellness-check response on you, (as you'd have to be seriously crazy to have this abusive person come live with you // OMFG, after what you did to her, she's going to let you come live with her? OMG. If true I need to get police to my sister's right now to make sure she's okay), cracks me the hell up. It's a bit of a backhanded compliment, but a compliment all the same.

 

[Bookoffee]

Thank you @Chava I hope you are doing well.

 

[Bookoffee]

Things are getting completely out of control!

My sister called me earlier. She told me that she didn't know if she should come down to my place to punch me in the face, hug me or drag my ass to live with her. I let her talk, saying very little. I was shaken up because this side of the family has in the past busted through my doors and pulled me out of my home.

Just now, her son called. I rushed him off the phone. I want to send a text to everyone to back off and not to show up at my place unannounced.

(Now he is texting me)

I can't think clearly. I need to send a message to everyone before someone shows up at my door.

"Thank you for your concern and contact. I ask that at this time not to show up at my house unannounced or call the police for a wellness check. I have the support and care in place if I were in need.'

Quick and right to the point or should I add anything?

 

[scout86]

I'm not sure I'd contact them at all. Just quit responding. I've had similar problems. My T's advice was not to engage them. If you think they will contact the police, maybe you should warn the police first that YOU are fine, but your family is a bit nuts. It sounds like this is one of those cases where, if you give them an inch, they'll take a mile. You're off to a good start on setting boundaries, just keep up the good work. Responding to them will only encourage them to keep it up. (Good luck!)

 

[Bookoffee]

That was an option my wife and I talked about. Tomorrow is my wife long day. She has class early in the morning then works till 10pm. I fear someone showing up at my door regardless.

I think I will alert the police and explain their history of kicking in my door and involving the police. I am just getting very worried about being alone tomorrow.

 

[scout86]

Is there somewhere else you can go tomorrow? It might be the chicken way out, but maybe you could arrange not to be home?

 

[StarChild]

I'm not sure I'd contact them at all. Just quit responding. I've had similar problems. My T's advice was not to engage them. If you think they will contact the police, maybe you should warn the police first that YOU are fine, but your family is a bit nuts.

^^^^^^^^
THIS, exactly this! Don't engage with them any longer, and inform the police. My goodness, they behave like in a madhouse... :woot::wacky::wtf:

 

[Bookoffee]

OMG!!! It wont stop! The phone is ringing and texts are blowing up my phone

 

[scout86]

Turn off the phone and find something pleasant to do. Put the whole mess out of your head for now. You got rid of them once, you can do it again. Read a book, listen to music, play a video game, pick something you enjoy and reward yourself for not getting sucked in to their drama. They'll quit once they find out it's not doing them any good.

 

[Chava]

My phone is almost on silent and half the time I do not even know where it is. I have a good filter that way (too much filter is maybe my issue...but..helpful at times!) Can you silence the phone, put it away, and find a movie, comedy, art project, book, any kind of distraction? Go for a walk?

 

[Bookoffee]

For my protection for tomorrow if anyone plans to come by, I sent a group text to everyone. I thanked them for checking on me and it means a lot that they care. I am ok and need time to think. I will not be answering my phone until Monday. To please not come by my house unannounced or to have a wellness check done on me. I am safe and healthy.

My nephew replied to my group message unaware that his mother was in the message as well, telling me about his heroine over dose about a year ago and some other information about how awful the family treats everyone.

My phone is off. If they show up tomorrow, I am calling 911 and showing the police the text message I sent to everyone that I am ok.

I am going to work on my model airplane and see what's on the tube.

WOW!