Relationship Ptsd Alternate Personality Specifics?

[lostforgottensoul]

I mean, have these issues/ homelessness etc, been addressed? (Before the relationship ones?) (And is anyone working, etc? ie Basic needs/ responsibilities/ security/ safety required.)

Ah, ok. Sorry for missing that. And yes i agree, one must eat and sleep in a bed with a roof hopefully before figuring out a relationship.

 

[EveHarrington]

DID is a bunny trail you don't want to go down. DID is seen in survivors of severe and prolonged child abuse. (Abuse that happened when the personality was forming, not as an adult.) A one incident trauma will not give someone DID. I believe that these personality shifts are very much within the scope of PTSD.

 

[Deleted member 17302]

Yes sorry I wasn't clear, not my point, up & quitting/ leaving not entirely rare.

I mean, have these is...

The vehicle was addressed the day before I found out she had been cheating for weeks. The job was/is in the process of being addressed. She had a job that was bringing in enough that combined with my unemployment was covering the costs well. To be honest, if this whole event didn't happen, we would be in quite good shape and most likely able to last past the unemployment end. Have roughly 2 months of it left and will sustain me even without her for that time. Job leads are pretty hot and will increase due to now having the vehicle sorted out. The event caused a lot of wasted time and money however which is a bit frustrating.

Her perception was that we had no more time at all because she kept getting stressed out when talking about it and made it hard for her to understand me telling her we were doing great and should be on schedule for keeping everything great.

Relationship items being addressed is very small portion of my time considering I've had to sort out the other junk now that I don't have her help at all.

Her actions were planned and executed well before the run out time. She isn't a logistical person and left that job to me which she apparently didn't trust as more stressful events mounted and decreased her ability to trust and feel love. She said she couldn't feel love or trust for the last couple of months even though the actions were there that would cause those two things to be felt normally. The holidays are not a good time and the trauma event and connected other events come right after the holidays. That coupled with the vehicle situation and other nonsense that we could not avoid increased the stress more.

I had not known she stopped her meds and without them she had no help at all to keep her stress levels moderated.

 

[Sweetpea76]

You say she said she couldn't feel love or trust... That could be emotional numbing, which is a symptom of PTSD.

 

[Deleted member 17302]

You say she said she couldn't feel love or trust... That could be emotional numbing, which is a sympt...

That is very true and she even acknowledged it was her PTSD but for some reason decided to not trust her logic and decided to run with the emotion instead. Her decision, her outcome. She knew the facts and chose to ignore them.

 

[Tinyflame]

ecided to not trust her logic and decided to run with the emotion instead. Her decision, her outcome. She knew the facts and chose to ignore them.

It could have gone that way, but maybe not. With ptsd, she may have not being able to remember, definitely not been able to 'think' if running away. Cheating etc, no, that's a choice though.

 

[Amack]

I am no therapist in this area but I would suggest (if you please) seeking out an alternate disorder. PTSD in itself does not come with Disassociation. That is an all together separate diagnosis as far as I understand.

 

[EveHarrington]

I am no therapist in this area but I would suggest (if you please) seeking out an alternate disorder. PTSD...

Hi Amack, are you a supporter or a sufferer? PTSD most definitely comes with a certain level of dissociation. Telling the OP that he should be looking into an alternate diagnosis is leading him quite astray. DID and DDNOS are on the higher end of dissociation, and PTSD levels of dissociation are typically higher than non-disordered normal population levels of dissociation. Nothing in his description of his partner points to anything more than PTSD.

 

[shimmerz]

Could be rage. Perhaps brought on by exhaustion (stress).

From my experience, it can largely depend on what the trigger is to put her into that state and how pervasive the trigger is in her life at this moment.

Recognizing the 'switches' (which does not necessarily mean DID), learning grounding tools from a therapist, can most definitely shorten the length of time that she is in these states. I have people who can cue me into whether I am in a 'state' or not, which is really helpful. They do so without judgement, nor are they condescending. That is really helpful. Many people on this board refer to these states as 'parts' and there are some posts on structural dissociation which may be helpful to you in your quest to understand.

 

[Amack]

Hi Amack, are you a supporter or a sufferer? PTSD most definitely comes with a certain level of di...

Sufferer with Psych. background. There is a LOT of debate on this subject so therefore, I would encourage others to tread lightly that dissosociation is a PTSD symptom, as it is not specifically as of yet. Isolation and detachment but DID is a disorder that stands alone>> ....... I only post to this to help realize this is not a blanket statement but everyone must be sure they have the information needed and are informed. PTSD is at the precipise of a new understanding, but we should not confuse that which is understood presently. I tried to post my links which are the DSM V and a United State PTSD VET site......

 

[joeylittle]

@Amack - I think criterion B3 (DSM 5) references dissociative symptoms, and considers flashbacks to be a form of dissociation. Also, isn't there a dissociative subtype of PTSD now?

I don't disagree that DID is it's own disorder - but I think you're not quite right about dissociation not being a PTSD symptom at all...

 

[EveHarrington]

Sufferer with Psych. background. There is a LOT of debate on this subject so therefore, I would encourage...

I'm not quite sure about there being a LOT of debate on the subject given that diagnostic testing of dissociative symptoms has been used to help diagnose PTSD since well before DSM-V. In addition, DSM-V specifically has dissociation as a possible symptom, and a sufferer with significant dissociation can be given the dissociative subtype. Can you please link to research which has credible evidence as to the doubt of PTSD not including dissociation? Also, those with diagnosable dissociative disorders have dissociation above and beyond, fitting higher symptom levels. Are you saying that those who experience PTSD levels of dissociation are "normal"? I guess I see the exclusion of dissociation from the PTSD diagnosis as leaving sufferers with dissociative symptoms in limbo. It denies their symptoms (in effect) while saying the dissociation is at sub-clinical levels so well it shouldn't be a big deal.