General A Confession Of A PTSD Sufferer

[Cowgirl]

Even trying to explain it here, sounds quite warped. On the one hand, I want someone to care about how I feel and listen to me. But at the same time I can't always explain what is going on, nor do I want to, so it feels like pressure, so I push it away. Then when I'm ready to share/talk, I realise that no-one is around, so have to go back to those friends,apologise, try to explain, and then try to talk about what is going on.

No, it isn't warped. It simply is.

My DH cannot always verbalize what is going on inside either. Because we live together, I'm still right there with him, and so I'm left to try to piece it together and discuss it later when he can talk about it. It makes it challenging, as there is some guess work for me in trying to figure out what is going on. But eventually he comes round and we can talk. Oddly, while I am absolutely no mind reader, I've often got it figured out pretty accurately by the time we talk - I guess that comes from being together awhile, you start to learn what is going on better over time.

Sometimes he needs space (don't we all??). One does what one needs, and that is OK. He loves me. He needs me. But he doesn't need me right there in his space around the clock every day. And that's OK.

It is good you have friends who can understand and give you the space you need and wait for you to call them when you are able.

:Hug_emoticon:

Cowgirl

 

[CaliSparrow]

I think it's respectful to hear another person's "side" although it's probably more natural to stay in the argument. When my husband gives in or walks away, it DEFINITELY helps me see the light and come to meet him in the middle. This entire process lends itself to emotional intelligence. -CS