A Public Apology

[Deleted member 541]

I would like to extend a public apology to Nic for my behavior recently, when I purposely caused her undue stress. My behavior was uncalled for, and behavior from yrs ago. My *OLD SELF* really came out. This to me is unacceptable behavior, and I need to step up to the plate, acknowledge, and apologize.

Sadly, I still haven't forgiven Nic for the damage she has caused me. Maybe in time, but for now I need to leave things as they are.

Nic I apologize for any and all stress, and hurt that I caused you with my behavior the other day.

I also would like to include an apology to all members of the forum if I offended anyone, or caused anyone to feel uncomfortable.

I sincerely regret my behavior of late, and I am really trying to get my shit together, even if I feel totally out of control.

 

[Grama-Herc]

It takes a strong person to publicly apologize. You are on the road to recovering from an extremely difficult period. I, for one, am extremely proud of you for this. It had to be difficult and somewhat embarrassing, but you did it! ! Kudos to you.

Just remember, we care! If you start to get out of control, step back and take a BIG DEEP BREATH OR 2

 

[Lisa]

Hey She Cat

I don't feel I need an apology from you... but I wanted to say it takes a big person to do that, and to publicly apologise to Nic too which you could have done privately and chose not to...

Don't want to be patronising... but I'm proud of you. Can't think of any other way to put it!

Lisa.

 

[nic]

Thank you, Wendy. I know you're still angry, and I totally understand and respect that. Perhaps, in time, things will be better between us.

Nic

 

[Nicolette]

Good on you Wendy for having the courage to apologise. While we only know fragmented parts of what truly transpired it is hard to say where any fault lay. It sounded to me like you were having a tough time and people reacted in a way which was not the best for you.

If I recall, didn't you and Nic meet up person to person? I wonder if that is why things got more personal than if it had been just a 'cyber' friendship? From what I could piece together it sounded like there was confusion as to the boundaries of the friendship.

Anyway, I hope you and Nic find peace with each other and everyone who needs to take something away from this is able to do so.

 

[anthony]

Your a big girl Wendy.... all in good time. Well done and don't beat yourself up over feeling like shit for a while whilst you deal with things. That is normal.

 

[Deleted member 487]

I admire this SheCat.

 

[pandora]

I just found this thread......I am just glad the whole thing is over and done with....time to move on...

 

[Deleted member 541]

Pand,

Yes it is time to move on and I have talked to Nic, and accepted her apology. I know that she meant no harm, and hopefully we have worked out our boundaries concerning our friendship.

 

[Nicolette]

Good on both of you Wendy and Nic for being big enough to work it out....a sign of a good friendship!