Alone

[hippieatheart]

How do you deal.with the fact that those who said they'd be there for you (friends and family) seem to.be absent when you reach out to them. Some I've known for 20 years and you're left feeling all alone as you go through your struggles

 

[Changing4Best]

Many folks don't like to be faced with other people's problems. When a person has too many problems of their own, dealing with or even listening to another person's problems is just too much for them. And so they disappear and recede into their own world. I'd suggest that you try not to only share your problems with them, but also share your happiness with them. That might bring them around for you. Maybe complement them for the times when they have been there for you. Tell them you appreciate the times when they have been in touch with you.

 

[hippieatheart]

Many folks don't like to be faced with other people's problems. When a person has too many problems...

I understand all of that. I've shared my happiness and successes with them. I've tried to make sure I'm there for them through their good times and bad. And to let them know.how much I appreciate them. I'm getting tired of putting all the effort in and getting f'ed over it seems

 

[KwanYingirl]

I only have two close friends left from the past 30 years. My family has shunned me after I broke the silence about my CSA. It is very lonely at times. Most people are only interested in their own business. It's like this for people facing cancer or mental illness or gender identity or controversial illnesses for which there are no tests to prove them, like fibromyalgia. You're not alone here though. Here is where there is courage and hope and jokes as well as sorrow.

 

[Changing4Best]

I have felt the same way in the past and finally made an effort to make some new friends. Since I have done this, my life is much more fulfilling and happy.

 

[hippieatheart]

It sucks and it's kind of heartbreaking. And after being heartbroken every day for 20 years by my now dead husband I don't know how much more I can take. And quite frankly I'm angry right now. No offense meant

 

[hippieatheart]

I'm kind of getting the attitude that you can't depend on anyone but yourself and I hate that feeling

 

[Changing4Best]

So sorry that has happened to you @hippieatheart

 

[hippieatheart]

Thank you. As to my question there's something else I want to say. I deeply apologize and it's and it's nit directed at any of you I'm just feeling really bitchy right now. But what is so hard about being true to your word

 

[Crow]

I lost my entire friend community over the st few years and I've chosen to distance myself from my family or origin. Weirdly, slowly, that huge abyss is being filled with new, healthy, dependable people. It's a lonely, painful process but I think it'll pay off.

 

[hippieatheart]

Definitely a lonely painful process

 

[hippieatheart]

I have my first therapy appointment tomorrow and I'm scared shitless. My cat has disappeared and I'm scared she's gone for good. She is like family. I tried messaging a couple of close friends on fb last night so I know they saw it. And I know they've been on several times since then. I just don't know what to think right know.....