Alone

[KwanYingirl]

I depend on my therapist and Reiki master. That seems weird and maybe pathological, but I need them right now and they're ok with it.

 

[hippieatheart]

Like I said I've been there for them through good times and bad. And I'm sorry to go on and on. I'm just feeling lost right now

 

[KwanYingirl]

Oh, I am sorry your cat is not home. And your friends don't respond on FB. I don't have anything good to say about FB. Anyway, I hope kitty comes home.

 

[KwanYingirl]

I'm glad you'll be seeing your therapist tomorrow.

 

[hippieatheart]

Thank you and thank you. I like fb. It It also really sucks because you can see when someone is just flat out ignoring you or all the other stuff you'd be better of not knowing. And it's not like we're random friends. We've been close friends for years

 

[hippieatheart]

And I'm trying so hard to give them the benefit of the doubt

 

[RavenGirl]

I too have gone through the same type of thing. I lost all my immediate family and most of my old "so called friends".:sour: I looked at it in a different way, my PTSD helped me weed out the fake people from the real people. Some stepped away when the heated hard times came, and some really stepped up to the plate. :tup: Now I know who were my real friends all along... It also helped me too see which family members were TOXIC for me and needed to be gone.:facepalm: I know it's hard, but it does get easier with time and you will find other people who will love you and support you for who you are, not who they want you to be.:) Hang in there. :hug:

 

[deer_in_headlights]

Hi Hippieatheart!

I have experienced the same, and my heart goes out to you! It's very painful!
I ended up grieving, as if the people I loved had died - because the dynamics of relationships change when we change.

I believe when people are silent like this, many of them are frightened and don't know what to say, or do.
They don't know how to respond, and I think only a tiny fraction of all the people in the world know how to walk alongside you in difficult circumstances.

It's very, very good that you are starting therapy. I've found that, over time, my therapists who have remarkable gifts of understanding and healing wisdom, provide far more comfort, support and healing than any friend or family member could ever give. I can be comfortable around friends and family, and not expect much, because I no longer desperately need their understanding. I can interact with them at levels where they are most comfortable. I have my therapists, multiple resources (pets, nature, here, etc...), inner resilience and my faith. I am sad that I can't interact with my friends at the amazing, deep level that I can with therapists, but these people don't want to do the painful and vulnerable work to achieve that degree of connection.

I'm so sorry your cat has disappeared! Can you put up posters with her picture on it, and your tel #?
I've also gone to all the local veterinarians and animal shelters, providing them with pictures and contact info.. This helps a lot, and Good Samaritans come out to search - which is heart-warming! I hope she comes back, happy, healthy and jumping into your arms!

Wishing you comfort, peace, your cat coming back and a great bond with your therapist!
Deer

 

[The Albatross]

Yup, this: "I believe when people are silent like this, many of them are frightened and don't know what to say, or do.
They don't know how to respond, and I think only a tiny fraction of all the people in the world know how to walk alongside you in difficult circumstances."

It is also a sad fact that at times, though I am my own priority... I am not though a priority for others at times when I want/need them to be. People will be unavailable at times... perhaps this is your cue to pick up some skill sets for self efficacy and autonomy or perhaps even extend your social network?

 

[The Albatross]

It sucks and it's kind of heartbreaking. And after being heartbroken every day for 20 years by my now dead husband I don't know how much more I can take.

Yup it does suck and it can be emotional. Being stuck in grief though can wear out/use up or relationships. My condolences for your loss.

I hope too your cat is found or returns.

 

[hippieatheart]

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for helping me get through yesterday. I know you all know how hard it is. I had my intake appointment this morning and they said yes you have ptsd. Is it bad when after you finish your story the intake specialists says "wow"

 

[hippieatheart]

Oh and no news on my cat yet