Never mind that I am trembling when he hugs me....
You appear to be about the same age as my daughter. I don't want to tell you what to do but lets pretend my daughter was in this situation and came to me for advice:
Daughter-What do you suggest Daddy?
Dad-RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN AWAY FROM THIS ABUSER. You are in a relationship/dating this person as an interview for marriage or a long term relationship. Is he passing YOUR TEST OR NOT? IS THIS WHAT YOU WANT? You will not change him.....Only his desire to change will change him.
I have lurked on this site for months and this is my first post. I am afraid for you.