Childhood Am I Over-reacting?

[RussH]

@braggle Please don't feel ashamed that you need others to validate something like this. Unfortunately, for many of us our trauma has skewed our ability to know what is appropriate and what is inappropriate.

 

[braggle]

@RussH thank you.

 

[monie1236]

no your not wrong..i believe you have to learn to listen to yourself more. I was sexually abused by my dad growing up and ended being sexually assaulted in the army..my outcome...Im now in therapy for ptsd and dont trust men anywhere. I am in my 2nd marriage and found my husband to be more then any man and has shown me he is more then just about getting sex. I would tell your brother that this is or was wrong u never know he may need help with all this.

 

[braggle]

Hi @monie1236 I'm sorry for the what you have experienced, it sounds as though you have found a wonderful husband and that he is a great support to you.

The trouble I have with trouble I have with trusting and listening to myself is that I would be screaming at every father/ grandfather I see with a young girl because I see abuse everywhere when I'm told there is none. That is what my gut tells me, but I know that this is very different.

Both myself and my brother are now adults and this is no longer going on, otherwise I would without any doubt act on the situation. I don't want to drag anything up for him but he often confides in me when he has a problem so I would hope that he knows that he can talk to me if he needs to.

 

[Lucycat]

Braggle, I really don't have anything to add. The others have all said it and I agree. Inappropriate behaviour and not an over-reaction on your part.

 

[braggle]

@Lucycat thank you for responding.

 

[braggie]

Yes, braggie i do to see every man as a predator. im so proud that you stood up and asked this question. It brings insight and gut feelings in alignment and show us when we are right or wrong and allows us to grow from the knowledge. Keep learning, keep asking.....we all need it. I am learning through therapy for my military service about the sexual assault that every man is not a predator...to be on guard is fine..trust my instincts but give each person a chance.