And No Body Ever Asked Why...

[Bloomy]

....and what happend in your childhood....

No body asked me why. Do every body calls me crazy, angry of no reason, tell me to get my self togheter and such.

And what if people have cancer? We talk about it and we support. What if we did this to trauma survivors? What creates the silence around traumas?

Worth seing and hearing.

 

[Fadeaway]

I got to 3:41, and had to stop or I was going to cry. Thank you for posting this, I will finish watching when I have less I need to get done.

 

[Teasel]

I can't see the video but I agree @Bloomy

Can someone say what the title of the video is so I can search ir?

 

[joeylittle]

what the title of the video is

Liz Mullinar - treating the core problem of childhood trauma.

Hope that helps!

 

[Teasel]

Liz Mullinar - treating the core problem of childhood trauma.

Hope that helps!

Thanks :)

 

[Deleted member 33052]

Bloomy, mental health just isn't cool. Cancer is cool. People shave their heads and ride bikes for cancer.... We just sit quietly in the background and nurse our invisible wounds. :(

 

[Bloomy]

Mal content - Mental health IS cool. In Noway atleast. Nearly to the point of riding pink bikes for the matter. But traumas on the other hand isnt cool, They are slowly accepting "mental health" issues here as long as you can say its your biological fault that your depressed. But if its your depressed cause your mother beat you on the other hand its a diferent issue. One not to be talked about. They tried to nail me that I was mental ill. I said I aint. Im just angry cause father did unspeakable things to me and its normal to have reactions upon that. They tried to make me admit saying its ok to have mental health issues and they also could be depressed or others inbetween, but I cant admit to nothing like that. I aint mentally ill. Im a survivor. And so are we all here. Suffering from injuries that is not our fault. And that society dont dare to see.

And therefor like they say in the video - no body will ask why. Cause they dont want to know. So yes we sit in the background cause wounds from traumas just aint cool.

 

[Bloomy]

@Fadeaway it makes me cry too. For us all.

 

[mrsmegan]

Thank you for posting this....

 

[EveHarrington]

Well, here-----mental health issues are "cool" if you don't actually have a mental health issue, you're experiencing very normal human reactions, and just want a reason for your pain.

Those of us who are mentally ill? We're not stupid. We know mental illness is about as un-cool as you can get!

 

[shimmerz]

What creates the silence around traumas?

What creates the silence is our society. Too many people would be 'wrong'. Our abusive parents would be wrong, our psychiatrists would be wrong, our social workers would be wrong .... and as a society we would have to digest that our children are being wronged.... horribly wronged. Our society is too busy for that shit. Or too guilty.

Psychiatric professionals would have to admit that, rather than being hereditary, mental illnesses, mainly, are born from abusive and/or neglectful familial behaviour, Behaviour that our society doesn't want to or cannot admit to because we are America the Great or Canada the peacekeepers.

We cannot admit to such a systemic failure, as we have a societal ego to feed.

But for the love of our children..... It is so much easier to ignore them than to fight an abusive adult. We are a society driven by cowards.

 

[Bloomy]

@ shimmerz It reminds me of the danish movie callled the wedding feast.
A couple has been married for oh 50 year sor something. So they invite all of their big family and relatives and kids of course to celebrate the event.
As it is usual in such events to hold speech in honor, the oldest soon rises up from his chair prepared to hold the speech for the gold wedding.
He says "now - Ive made two speeches for today. And dad. You get to choose which one I should hold. The one in right hand or the left."
The dad chooses and then comes the speech in front of the whole family dressed in their best dresses ready to have ball.
The son tells them all what his dad have done as abused him and his sisters, neclect and violence and terror.. How their mother new and never said nothing. Have their sister sucided from the trauma. And so on. All in this upper class seemingly perfect family.
The stunning thing is that the family and relatives first get shock. Then try as hard as they may to cover up this disgrace done by the eldest son. Lets keep it cozy. Come on this is a wedding party lets celebrate....

So yes - the society so much cowardly covers up. Cause they dont want to know. Not about what happend tpo themselves nor to others. Hey have a shot of whisky. Some prozac. Let sing and dance.

Thats why to read Alice Millers was dawning to me at 13 years of age. She is well worth reading.