Anniversary-father's Day- Pain Deep Healing And Anger At Domestic Violence

[junglegirl]

Abusers do not change. I had an incredibly painful day today because of upcoming father's day. I feel angry for the years I lost with my mother due to the need to recover from his abuse. And he is still the entitled psychopath malignant narcissistand mysoginist he always was and probable closet case. He is a headcase and I wish him dead. I want the last decades of my mothers life to be free of him. He doesn't deserve a happy father's day evil bastard. I healed myself deeply today. Cradling my head and rocking myself and stroking my hair after a healing deep cry. Happy father's and motherand child's day to ME.=)

 

[Deleted member 20280]

And yes there are mysoginistic narcissictic bastards out there. But there are also many dad's who are the victims themselves as all men are not the same, the same as all women are not the same.

There are victims on both side of both sexes. You are a female victim of abuse as much as I am a male victim of abuse.

I, like you have been further victimised by society.

Your pain is my pain. We are both victims you and I.

Your pain hurts just as my pain hurts.

 

[junglegirl]

Laurie- so selfish and inappropriate to respond to MY pain that way. You need tact respect and timing

 

[Deleted member 20280]

As a father refused contact from his children because of what happened in my childhood. I am a victim the same as any other on this forum. I am refused contact with my children because my estranged wife does not want me to have contact or interaction with them.

You and I both have pain inside as a direct result of abuse. Caused by both a father and in my case a mother.

Fathers day and Mothers day effect you and I the same. We both feel the pain caused by these days, seen by society as a celebration of motherhood / fatherhood and I agree, there are fathers out there who deserve to be absent from their children, but, there are also mothers who also deserve to be absent from their children as well.

MY pain as a Father is very real and I have done nothing to deserve this pain being demonized as I have.

I undeerstand your pain. I hope you understand Mine.

 

[KP the nut]

Laurie- so selfish and inappropriate to respond to MY pain that way. You need tact respect and timing

@junglegirl This post is bordering on attacking. You posted this thread and Santa_Laurie replied, there is nothing in his reply to warrant your reply. Please respect the views of others.

 

[Hashi]

@junglegirl, I'm sorry for how you're feeling. I'd like to validate what you said and send you some support.

I hope you get through the day OK. I like the idea of reclaiming it for yourself, I'm glad you've been able to comfort yourself.

 

[Deleted member 27181]

@junglegirl This post is bordering on attacking. You posted this thread and Santa_Laurie replied, there is nothing in his reply to warrant your reply. Please respect the views of others.

Whilst I partly agree with you @KP the nut, @junglegirl you should not reply so harshly and rudely. I do feel that it is her post and she is talking about her healing and it sounds as though she is proud of herself. But also that she has strong feelings of dislike towards her father, which means people should also respect her views and feelings and not try to stick up for fathers. She wasn't slagging every father off, she was expressing her dislike for her own and expressing her own healing. So @Santa_Laurie should not try to defend all fathers as she was talking about her own and in no way implied that all fathers are the same as her own.

I am happy to hear you are taking this day for yourself, like what @Hashi said. It's a good thing to take control of it and not let the day ruin you - like I kind of let it do to me. I am always here if you need to talk.

 

[junglegirl]

You are awesome hashi and always read things the way they are presented.@ kpthenut I am entitled to MY healing. His post was inappropriate. You consistently misinterpret my posts any particular reason why YOU attack my posts? You can explain yourself but I have an idea already of what goes on here with moderators ganging up on certain individuals. By the way just wanted to let you know, it'sso OBVIOUS. have a nice night.

 

[Deleted member 27181]

@ kpthenut I am entitled to MY healing.

@KP the nut stuck up for you saying the other person was attacking you?

 

[junglegirl]

Kpthenut said that stating my truth was attacking someone else when that individual who was not being supportive and being inappropriate with ME was what was going on.

 

[Deleted member 27181]

@junglegirl I am sorry I misread. You do not need to be so agressive however, I think you could tone down your replies just a little. People are entitled to their opinions and you can polietly tell them that you disagree.

 

[Nicolette]

@junglegirl making an agenda of going after staff for them doing their job is not tolerated and as a result of this you have been banned from participating any further in this thread. I suggest you sit down and have a think about your attitude as it is even reflected in other areas and may result in you being temporarily banned if you do not respect staff. Thank you