I just wonder if there are others out there that live with a chronic or pathological liar and their life and how they handle it. I serperated from my husband 10 yrs ago and we are trying to re-unite. We go to marraige counseling. I know everyone has different perceptions of the same event and are not lying. I can accept that easily. I didnt hear that, or see that part, or interpreted it differently.
My husband has never aplogized to me for anything. I have more respect for my first husband who beat me, then cried and apologized and did something nice in an attempt to fix it.
My current husband and I had an altercation a few weeks ago. After and arguement, I told him to leave and he went downstairs. I went down to the landing with a cigargette in my hand that I was smoking. He said he was going back up. I said he wasnt. He started pushing me. We were in each others faces. He said "oh, you like being beat up by men dont you, you like it huh, well lets go upstairs to the bedroom and I will show you how its dont right" These words ring over and over in my head. The he was shoving me up the steps til I fell backwards and sled down hitting my back and head. This all happened in a minute or less. Somewhere I burned him with my cigarette. I cant say I remember doing it, but he had a mark and I agree that I did.
Now his story is that I wouldnt let him past and I was swinging and kicking so he had to grab me. He move me backwards and I fell and rolled down the steps. He denies any words about liking to be beat.
Now once I got up off the steps, I was furious, It was a flashback and to boot, I was on prednisone which made me manic, but maybe mean too. I did not have audio hallucinations thought. He will absolutely not admit it. This drives me crazy because he taught our grown daughters to lie til your grave. So I had an idea. For him to take a polygraph test. If I am hearing things,, which I do not believe, I want to know. If he said these things, I want him own them.
After years and years about lying about trivial things, this is one of the biggestm but I dont know how to proceed with counseling when he makes me out to be the monster, even before ptsd. Its even worse since ptsd-not sure why. Maybe its because I feel a bit crazy at times. I try to stay in check with my attitude or how I am coming accross, with patience or being short. I also have a traumatic brain injury. With family who lie constantly, I end up having suicidal ideation. I have been in depression most of the time since this. Further, I awoke at 4 am and could not move. I was on my stomach and my body would not turn, He had to help me. Hours later I got up to go to the bathroom and my right leg gave out and I fell to the ground. Again, he had to help me. Then he yelled at me tongith that I dont compliment him for taking such care of me. I see the dr tomorrow and am sure something is wrong with my speine. My moth tasts like pure salt.
I know there must be others with liars, who will never admit being wrongm and you will not get an apology from. How do you cope. I use to not care, just say it as his defense or self preservation, but cant anymoore. Not after loosing kids over this behavior. I cant find a way to accept this. He refuses polygraph test. Any and all comments and advice are welcome
My husband has never aplogized to me for anything. I have more respect for my first husband who beat me, then cried and apologized and did something nice in an attempt to fix it.
My current husband and I had an altercation a few weeks ago. After and arguement, I told him to leave and he went downstairs. I went down to the landing with a cigargette in my hand that I was smoking. He said he was going back up. I said he wasnt. He started pushing me. We were in each others faces. He said "oh, you like being beat up by men dont you, you like it huh, well lets go upstairs to the bedroom and I will show you how its dont right" These words ring over and over in my head. The he was shoving me up the steps til I fell backwards and sled down hitting my back and head. This all happened in a minute or less. Somewhere I burned him with my cigarette. I cant say I remember doing it, but he had a mark and I agree that I did.
Now his story is that I wouldnt let him past and I was swinging and kicking so he had to grab me. He move me backwards and I fell and rolled down the steps. He denies any words about liking to be beat.
Now once I got up off the steps, I was furious, It was a flashback and to boot, I was on prednisone which made me manic, but maybe mean too. I did not have audio hallucinations thought. He will absolutely not admit it. This drives me crazy because he taught our grown daughters to lie til your grave. So I had an idea. For him to take a polygraph test. If I am hearing things,, which I do not believe, I want to know. If he said these things, I want him own them.
After years and years about lying about trivial things, this is one of the biggestm but I dont know how to proceed with counseling when he makes me out to be the monster, even before ptsd. Its even worse since ptsd-not sure why. Maybe its because I feel a bit crazy at times. I try to stay in check with my attitude or how I am coming accross, with patience or being short. I also have a traumatic brain injury. With family who lie constantly, I end up having suicidal ideation. I have been in depression most of the time since this. Further, I awoke at 4 am and could not move. I was on my stomach and my body would not turn, He had to help me. Hours later I got up to go to the bathroom and my right leg gave out and I fell to the ground. Again, he had to help me. Then he yelled at me tongith that I dont compliment him for taking such care of me. I see the dr tomorrow and am sure something is wrong with my speine. My moth tasts like pure salt.
I know there must be others with liars, who will never admit being wrongm and you will not get an apology from. How do you cope. I use to not care, just say it as his defense or self preservation, but cant anymoore. Not after loosing kids over this behavior. I cant find a way to accept this. He refuses polygraph test. Any and all comments and advice are welcome
