I understand what you're saying, Tammy, but some people can't be told what to believe in, regardless of past evidence for or against it.
I didn't tell him what to believe in. Please point that out to me because I must have over looked it. I told him my experiences and I thought it was a waste of time. What to believe in and what is a waste of time are two separate issues.
I learned that the bloody hard way - and alienated many people. If somebody wants to believe that drinking milk will cure them of cancer, they will believe it, even if it kills them faster.
I know that as well and I just tried to keep him focused in the "Here and Now" instead of looking into past lives. It's my opinion it won't help the recovery process, but I also stated this was from MY personal experience and opinion. I didn't tell him he couldn't look into it. I even told him to PM me if he decides to go that route and needs help.
In my opinion, if I give reasonable advise and that alienates people from me, then that is their loss not mine. I've been working hard on my issues and I've seen a lot, and have had a lot of paranormal experiences. I have a lot of paranormal friend's who help me through the things that confused and SCARED me. They were once confused and scared too, and someone helped them, and someone before them helped them etc etc etc.
I've been looking into this phenomena for a long time and got beat on in a post when I first joined here. I stated that it was wrong for people to say psychic's are fake. Look into the archives.
All we can do is offer our experiences
Yep, that's exactly what I did. Yes or No? Then gave some explanations as to why I feel this way. I believe that is what the forum is for; exchanging ideas and giving advise based on personal experiences. Yes? Isn't that what I did?
Then it's up to the individual to take it or leave it. It's their choice and I'm not going to stalk them every time they speak of their decision to go in the opposite direction of how I feel about it. Did I allude to that?
... Sometimes I have believed in the absurd, like believing my ex loved me, and it was the only thing that kept me going - so while it was a complete lie and clearly just a fantasy, I needed it and it saved me...
I'm glad to hear living in denial saved your life, and if it saves anyone else, then I say they should continue on with what ever is keeping them alive.
I believe that people should do what they know how to do if it works for them. But, I think the forum is open for discussion on trying to help people come out of denial, heal, and try to keep them from going down roads that seem long and drawn out in their recovery process.
If he decides to go that route I can almost assure you Anthony would agree that learning about the paranormal would take up a lot of time, and maybe even help him down the road in healing, but it would be time consuming when he could be learning easier, and less confusing methods.
I might ask Anthony to reply to this post just to get his opinion.
But, I will state this again. It's his choice to do what ever he wants and I am more than willing to help him if he gets stuck in the confusion.