Are My Feelings Valid?

[Littlebirdy44]

I'm wondering if I'm over thinking things because of the hurt I've experienced in the past or if how I'm feeling is valid and justifiable. I reached out to my T almost 2 weeks ago in between sessions telling her my depression is the worst it's ever been and asked her if she thought Its time I start considering medication. She told me it was ultimately my choice but thinks it's a good idea and offered to write down some names of psychiatrists to give to me at our next session. The session came and went and she told me she'd email me those names..but that was days ago and I still have yet to hear from her. I know T's are incredibly busy and at times forgetful but this isn't the first time she's promised something and forgot. I also know I'm capable of going and finding someone on my own but I can't help but wonder if she takes me seriously and it's also worrying me because I just opened up about the sexual abuse from my childhood and you'd think she'd understand how painful and difficult that is to Talk about let alone process throughout the week. It's also confusing because recently we've been really getting along or at least I thought we were. I know she's human and makes mistakes but I'm a little hurt...am I overthinking it?

 

[RecedingMoonlight]

Hello friend,

Understandibly, you being upset over your T not doing as promised is completely valid. You're not overthinking that - you have every right to be upset and hurt.

However, I doubt that she doesn't take you seriously. Like you said, perhaps she has other patients and she is trying to juggling other things on top of her own life that most undoubtedly conflict with her memory. People sometimes make mistakes, but I'm sure that she does care about you, and this situation is simply the result of many things to address. You have every right to feel hurt! Your feelings and emotions are valid. However, know that there is probably no malice intended.

If you'd like, you could send another email regarding the options that you'd like her to send. That way, it would prompt her to respond to you. It's not a bad thing to remind people of their promises, as its simply human to err sometimes. If she had done this kind of mistake multiple times before, then this would be a whole different thing altogether.

I hope that you receive the information you need soon. :)

 

[Littlebirdy44]

Hello friend,

Understandibly, you being upset over your T not doing as promised is complete...

Thank you (: I guess I should email her and remind her I just feel like I'm intruding because I always end up emailing her in between sessions. This is the third time she's forgotten to email me information but I'm forgiving and know she's a busy woman. I do like her so I'm going to give her a reminder but I think maybe it's time I bring it up during our next session. Will see (: thanks again!!! Your response helped a lot!