Are There Any Positive Ptsd Relationship Stories Out There?

[Fox]

I'm 37, single and no kids. And spend a lot of time isolating. I used to be massively into socialising but I no longer drink and find getting out to be difficult. Living in a rural area helps for isolation but not for meeting people. Whenever I do meet someone I feel like such a burden when PTSD inevitably comes into it and I end it. Has anyone got any positive relationship stories to share?

 

[Chiqui]

I'm 37, single and no kids. And spend a lot of time isolating. I used to be massively into socialising but...

I searched for a man who has Ptsd as well, so he could understands me!
We have been together 8 years now, and hope many more to come...yes!! Love is worthy to search for... All the best x you

 

[hodge]

Yes. I don't know how much this will help you, but I got together with my husband years before PTSD came on. I am so lucky because of that. My heart just breaks for everyone who didn't manage to get a good relationship before PTSD, as it's so difficult. Still, I put my hubby through hell before I finally got my butt to therapy and learned how to manage the anger. I am so blessed that he stuck with me. We live in a rural area, too, and there aren't a lot of prospects around here for single women.

I have some suggestions. First, do not tell a date about your PTSD unless or until you feel it will become very intimate. Let him get to know you first and all your great attributes. I think nothing will doom a burgeoning relationship like disclosing PTSD too soon. That is something to disclose to someone you have a solid relationship with and who you trust will not reject you because of it.

 

[Keming]

Been with the same fella for about 12 years now. it's not quite a 'standard relationship.' We enjoy each other's company, and live together. Sometimes it's distant. Sometimes it's pleasantly intimate. Mostly it's two close friends living together, with the usual strains that can have (he is slowly learning how to fact-check stories).

"But it's not true love," the crowd protests.
*shrug* We're content.

 

[Deanna]

Well, the trick is finding what your body needs first before finding a relationship. I do believe that there is someone for everyone.

There is benefits to taking care of yourself and I know ( even thought I'm physical at my job everyday) it's not enough. I have to work-out to feel my absolute best. So, the trick is FEELING your best to attract a partner. ( for me) The problem is, it's takes most of my day.. but I do see someone ( once in awhile)... but it's slow. I really don't mind being by myself but sometimes we all need a human touch from someone else. I also drink protein shakes. Drinking alcohol for us is really bad, for us, and whoever we are with.. It shouldn't even be an option

 

[Fox]

Well, the trick is finding what your body needs first before finding a relationship. I do believe...

Thank you for replying. Yeah alcohol is a no go. I tend to find myself feeling great and stable and happy then I meet someone and bam. It goes to shit. Some of my trauma is a around sex and not long after the biggest trauma I had I got into a relationship with an verbal/emotional and physical abuser. Not the greatest ha! But the way he treated me did teach me one thing. He was never going to love me like I needed. The only person who can do that is me. And I'm very grateful to him for that.

 

[no solution]

is there actually a sucessful ptsd relationship out there.

I feel awkard in this forum. I am a male nam vet severe ptsd from sexual trauma and daily migranes. Spouse is narcistic and nothing I do is good enough. I feel like why try. Wife could care less about my issues the list goes om.....

Migraines are daily from TBI caused by a blow to head from 500 lb. bomb while moving. concussion and migraines daily. no meds available work. yes I am at the end of my rope.

 

[Fox]

is there actually a sucessful ptsd relationship out there.

I feel awkard in this forum. I am a mal...

Hi no solution

I hear you feel awkward. Me too. It's a bit strange. But do you feel it's easier to say what you really think and feel? I do a bit.

I'm really sorry for your constant physical pain and PTSD anguish. :( I wish I could help somehow.

 

[The Albatross]

Yes there are. Some. They take conscious effort and willingness on both sides.

 

[The Albatross]

I would counter the topic, with the fact that these days, relationships have about a 50/50 chance. Just sayin'.

 

[Deanna]

Yes there are. Some. They take conscious effort and willingness on both sides.

Well, my ( quote) relationship started different. Long story short, he was already PTSD and unmediated. I however, was never diagnosed. So.. we were not good together. Later on, he became medicated and now I am medicated and we are seeing each other. I just started therapy and I've been in business for a long time and had PTSD ( and didn't know it) I don't know how this will work out for us but now it's just a super closeness.. kind of like these forums. We know each other. I improved a lot with medication.. so I'm not going to go through years and years of counseling when my doctor can prescribe the meds. I take quite a bit of meds and get out of bed everyday. However, he is disabled. I'm a super introvert and he's social butterfly. I'm also an exercise nut. (I'm limited, but it helps my mental well-being) tremendously.

It's just a relationship now.

 

[The Albatross]

@Deanna's Gap ... um confused. Glad you both are medicated? Not really sure what the quote thing was for? Glad this is workin' for ya, "I improved a lot with medication.. so I'm not going to go through years and years of counseling when my doctor can prescribe the meds. I take quite a bit of meds and get out of bed everyday." and that works for you and your partner and that it's "just a relationship now".

If ya don't want to work or be a partner, fo' sho' swallow the meds? Shesh. Don't think that's what Fox had in mind though.