Are You A Fighter?

[Namenotdiagnosis]

I'm rooting for u all the way , I really admire people who are so passionate about something and fight it to end . You sound very determined and I think you will be successful . You need the right person to support you and understand you and why you are going this , I feel very humbled coz in essence you are doing this for everyone with PTSD who are discriminated at work. Please keep me posted .
I've had an horrendous day just got in from work and totally collapsed in bed , been having flashbacks since last night all through night and day last one being an hour ago . Feel absolutely washed out, one of my colleagues asked if I was k in midst of one had to tell her I was going through menopause and ur was a hot flush , the last thing u need is management on my back telling me to go home co I'm not fit for work. Hopefully a nap will help me it usually does, good luck notsowild

 

[Airedale 48]

Hi Notso, sorry it's taken a while to get back to you. Broken ribs and the pain killers that go allong with them don't lead to very clear conversation. And no to anyone that asks about drugs, I am not, have not and never will have a problem.
Anyway, I think that it's great that you stepped out on a limb and did your level best and explain what's happened and how you feel.
You left yourself very open. It's pretty clear that you are brave.
I can't speak for others but for my part the only thing I can do is lend my two cents worth of information. Unless a person aks I do my best not to advise. I'm no counselor nor am I a guru.
So I hope you know that I did not mean to make you feel like I was telling you what to do. Instead I just wanted to share my experience. I worry for you but you know yourself and the situation. I hope things work out like you intend them to.
BTW,know what I rarely know when I react? What is the out come I want the situation on am in to look like.
Kind of like a military opt order.
Someone in the chain of command realizes that a bridge is allowing Isis to advance for too quickly and not blowing it will lead to bad things. He sends order down the chain that the chain of command and says he needs that taken bridge down. Finally it gets to the planners. They take the goal. "Take the bridge down" But how? and do we need to totally destroy it or wreck it enough so that at another time we can rebuild it. That question will work it's way back up the COC who says he wants the bridge taken down along with the bridge heads. The point is that it's important to slow down and think. What do I need? What would it look like? Can I get it? If not, what are the repercussions? If yes is the goal you worked for so important that it might cause dangers in other areas.

Anyway, sorry for taking so long to reply and I hope your decission works out like the picture you want it to.
Good LUCK!

 

[xena21]

But I just can't let it go. Why should she be allowed to verbally abuse me and I'm the one punished. No way. I'm fighting this all the way. I just can't be stepped all over by this witch. Yes I will only give up when I've exhausted every avenue.

Good for you! I hope you kick her ass too. You know what I mean. I just hope you can feel like you are being supported in this endeavor and I am pulling for you. I wish you the best!!

 

[Notsowild]

Well I finished the application. It now goes to the coalition to proof read. I'm starting to feel a little guilty now. I know she has been trying to be nice to me. Though at times it seems so phony. Why do I have to feel this way? I wonder if she ever feels guilty for the way she treated me? I hate myself for feeling this way.

 

[Namenotdiagnosis]

Don't feel guilty please . You hve niting to feel guilty about. Your boss is just typically doing what an abuse does, mash your head up then be nice and turn it all around as if you were in the wrong, 9 out if 10 ten times waiting for you to apologise coz they've now made u feel guilty. I don't think she feels guilty , had she ever apologised for the wat she behaves? Has she ever said I think we need to sit down and discuss this? Has she ever asked you what's the matter? Does she realise the stress shes caused you ? Probably not, and notsowild control, phony ,unkind , and not pleasant people don't feel guilt coz if they did they wouldn't do it to u in the first place!

 

[Notsowild]

Thanks @Namenotdiagnosis
Well the coalition told me what changes had to be made on my form. One was to name the company not just the manager. It's true the whole company ignored my PTSD symptoms from HR to the district manager and higher. It's just hard because my company has been good to me. It was just all the new management that they hired. But there was so much that so many of them ignored or behaviours blamed on me without wanting to know the whole truth. On to the tribunal. Wish me luck!