Are you feeling alone, lost, and without belonging? how do you cope?

[TruthSeeker]

Sometimes I just have to think and act 'as if' everything is ok just the way it is. The only thing consta...

I teach....I use I can statements all the time.....I sometimes have to say I can do......and keep moving. Positive self talk sometimes is a needed self motivator. I keep telling myself this is just a moment in time.

It sounds like you have much recent loss. I was going to make a few suggestions, but I think you...

It's been 10 months with therapy........time to take off the black dress. I hate this feeling.

 

[EveHarrington]

I think that it’s quite sad that so many people tolerate abuse by turning a blind eye to it all. My family is all a little crazy in their own way, but the abusive people are gone.....mainly my dad....but those who know the truth have kicked him out of their lives, too. I walk a tightrope with my sister though. She doesn’t really know the truth and chooses to have my dad in her life. Sooner or later she’ll figure out the truth as my dad can’t hide the abusive side from her forever. Sorry, I’m not trying to make this about me! I guess I’m just trying to say that I think most people walk around with blinders on and tolerate abusive people simply because it’s easier than walking away.

I know you’ll cycle through many emotions, loss, grief, sadness, angry, etc. Rebuilding your life is not easy! I’m rebuilding in a different way, and to me it’s so much scarier than dealing with/healing PTSD. But, I find comfort in knowing that many other people have to rebuild their lives for many different reasons. It helps me to not feel so alone.

I hope this helps in one way or another. These changes that we go through can be so difficult, and it feels like, to me, that once I have one thing figured out, five more obstacles are placed in front of me!

 

[TruthSeeker]

Yea, I tell myself " this is just a moment in time when I'm so lonely, feeling sorry for myself, alone..... I tell myself.".it will pass.....things will calm down"......but there seem to be so many......moments in time, I mean." Some things have improved. I have a safety plan, a move on plan, and doing much about them right now at the end of the school year...so challenging.

 

[Happyplace76]

I've had to distance myself from my family, and they did a good job distancing themselves from me to by...

@Bkinder
Wow, I could've typed that myself. I went no contact with my mother years ago, and I admit it's hard. I did it for a number of years. These traumas have deepened that and have left me sobbing feeling so alone - I'm having a hard time with my hope with that right now, but oh yes, I feel so very not a part of any community - part of that is my own isolation. The other part is realizing how few real friends we actually have in life. How utterly not understanding family can be. It's almost like being revictimized again /family abuse of origin.

One thing that does help me - is my faith in God - my relationship and knowing that he knows the truth, the deep pain I feel - not knowing if he's caring right now (bible says he does) and other times I imagine crawling up into Jesus's lap like a little child and just being held like I've held my son.

 

[Changing4Best]

I've had to distance myself from my family, and they did a good job distancing themselves from me to by...

I had to do this with my in-laws after my husband passed. I moved to a new city some 1200 miles away (and then moved some 600 miles away from there) and have made a new life for myself here. Life is good and much less "dramatic."