Childhood Are You Ok With Your Name?

[theotherside]

Just wondering if there are any survivors that cant stand to hear their name..
I changed mine which is easy for anyone new i meet.
But old family and friends are hard...they call me old name and if i send them a card i cant sign old name or new one...when i hear my old name i cringe...

 

[Queen Boudica]

Yes I was Elizabeth as a child and I can still here my mother with her Spanish accent calling me and I hate being called it. Makes me jump and feel sick. My mother hated, when I was 16 and my friends called me Liz. She even told off the manager at the shoe shop I worked part time for calling me Liz when he phoned up one time. She named me Elizabeth, I was her possession and didn't have the right to decide what I was called.

 

[theotherside]

@Lizio thanks for sharing. Sometimes i think i need to remember that name i hate..even though i want to pretend it was never there...

 

[J_trustno1]

I'm fine with my name apart from the fact that I don't like it's meaning and it's a bit outdated for this generation. However, I wouldn't change it for anything because it's been my identity for over 27 years now. I won't be me if I change it to something else. However, I do wish to name my children with sensible names which will have meaning unlike mine where my own parents don't know the full meaning of my name.

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

Strangely enough, my name is one of the few things in which my parents actually did right by me.
I was lucky enough to associate my name with the "real me", rather than with all the babbling coming out of their heads.

Sometimes you have to find your real name.
I can imagine why you'd want one that doesn't remind you of painful things. :hug:

 

[theotherside]

@Radise thanks..i guess it just makes me feel bad..or sad..idk. maybe ashamed..i dont even really know..one day i just changed it...

 

[Whitebird]

I don't like my name too. My name means "father's glamor". Also it is the name of a beautiful flower. I hate the former because I have never been my father's glamor, actually he always told me you destroyed my life!

 

[Deleted member 27340]

I'm actually fine with my name, it's one of my last names I don't do well with. I've got the last names of both my parents, and I can't stand my mother's.

I feel like I lack an identity, and can present myself as whatever. I try to hold onto my name, and I will actually correct people's pronunciation if they pronounce it the English way. My name is Tyra, and in Norwegian the Y is pronounced a lot differently than in English. The Norwegian Y sound doesn't exist in the English language, so most English speakers are incapable of producing it, and I will tell them to pronounce it with and I instead of and Y rather than with the English Y.

 

[jaccat]

It took me a long time to come to terms with my name, but actually I've grown to like it. By the time I was born it had become a little outdated. There are plenty of people 10-15 years older with this name, but I only knew one my age. She hated it so much she went by her middle name. In the end I decided there were some advantages to it. Full length, it is formal and quite impressive sounding, very handy for letter writing and dealing with officials. Shortened to one syllable it is casual, and suits my tomboyish nature. Shortened to what it usually is, it's acceptable to people who don't know me so well. I don't like that version so much, but it provides a kind of distance which can be handy to me as in you don't get to call me by my nickname because you're not close enough (yeah, it's all in my head). So in a way I have three different names.

 

[falling_wave]

I changed my name just slightly because it did bring up memories. It was just one letter but it made all the difference. My family was and is really upset about it though. I like having the ability to recreate who I am as an adult.

 

[sun seeker]

Yes, in fact at one point I decided to change it and found a new name that I asked people to call me for a few years. After a while I felt ready to change it back though, and it seemed the negative connotations weren't affecting me anymore.

 

[illusionist]

I absolutely cringe when I fill in official forms and put down my previous names. I was always known by my foster parents name, but on the run up to getting married I realised that I would have to use my adopted name, as It was my legal name. Rather than have to explain the change in surname after the ceremony ( 99% of folks there knew nothing of my past) I changed my name by deedpole to the name I was known as, my foster parents name. It is something I don't have to use very often, but I do cringe at the site of that name, and that I chose to take the name on, out of pure shame of my past.