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Same here!Oh golly, I do that too. Didn’t realise that was an ok thing to be doing...
But hey, since i...
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Same here!Oh golly, I do that too. Didn’t realise that was an ok thing to be doing...
But hey, since i...
My sister and I had a hilarious conversation where were we discussed all the people who had...
Good for you for doing that. I wish I had courage enough to do thatI found my molestor, living comfy high on the hog in a golf community in a lovely shore communit...
I’ve met Béla Fleck and played with him (banjo) very neat manOkay some of you might find this one amusing or highly relatable. This really needs to get t...
Okay some of you might find this one amusing or highly relatable. This really needs to get trending on Twitter with a #metoo.
One of my abusers, who was a ‘long term predator’, came into my workplace when I was pregnant with my first child. I had not seen him or knew of his whereabouts for over 8 years, i has simply tried to ‘file it away’ into another cabinet in my mind, i was so frightened he was going to ‘expose’ me & I remember being physically sick after having to sit through drinks with him. Then, nearly 6 years later he came into my new workplace again, I’m sure he was still doing drugs, he kept trying to visit for coffee, again I panicked not knowing how to say no - people don’t understand the intensity of the ‘grooming’ that predators do to ‘gag’ you & strike such shame & fear into you - people at my work even questioned that there was something wrong & strange, the same thing they said about my last abuser & his anger issues too! Anyway, somehow I found the courage to call his best mate & leave a message - saying how his friend was really a creep & sick & twisted & that if he attempted to come back into my workplace I would call the police. That was over 10 years ago... & then recently I saw what looked like him as a contact on my twitter feed - & also his mate on Pinterest, i then saw how they connected to my last abuser (they were working for the same hotel! it brought everything to the surface again - I’ve experienced all types of abuse, but this guy was a real predator of women, I don’t deny being a party girl in my early 20’s, that I tried drugs & took a few lovers, but there is a difference in consent & being abused & Raped. People who stalk you, follow & harrass you ARE predators & the problem is with them, but I have also had to learn that to stop revictimisation you sometimes need to ‘keep your enemies close!So, why did I look him up on social media, again? I see him standing in the snow with his happy smiling...
Your comments on this thread are victim policing the OP...please stop. As someone I know says, victim is not a dirty word, and someone else’s healing is not yours to control.I’d dump the friend. Staying friends with her is crazy making triangulation.
I think you have...