Relationship Best guy i ever met-shut me out

[Serendipity424]

Did he ever come back?

No:(

 

[Serendipity424]

No:(

Last time we talked he was very angry with me for pushing that was sometime early June.
07/17-I talked to him today, just for a short time and it was nice, he said he needed to hear what I said. He said he was sorry and said he does not think he can ever love anyone. He talked to me and knows I am there if he needs it. That is all that matters. I am not pushing it. We exchanged a couple texts and then he stopped. I am not pushing at all and if he wants to talk again when he is ready I will be there :-)

 

[Serendipity424]

No:(

So he came back...super excited. we have been talking for almost a week now. Everything perfect and right where we left off. We made plans to see each other next weekend, I am not sure what will happen between then and now but we have talked non stop for almost a week. He seems really tired and sometimes a little stressed. It has been perfect, I don't want to push him and I have been extremely patient. He said he is glad I did not give up on him and he got freaked out by a relationship with me saying no one has ever really loved him. At first he said he wanted to take things slow and he has alot of issues then as days went by it was you are the one I want. I hope he stays, in my heart I know this will not last but I will never stop hoping.

 

[Mariposa Verde]

Hi @Serendipity424 , I am very happy to hear that he came back :-)

 

[Serendipity424]

Hi @Serendipity424 , I am very happy to hear that he came back :)

We have decided to be friends and it works out perfectly. I am glad to have him in my life and we have become really good friends. :-)

 

[sadgirl]

I experienced something very similar with a man I knew for 2 months. In my case, he never said anything at all. Our relationship was easy going and fun, but emotionally close. There was no pressure. But out of the blue, he just blocked me on his phone and won't speak to me. I know how hard it is to let it go when you've felt that closeness with someone that seems so rare, and there seems to be no explanation for him suddenly shutting you out. I spoke with a professional who believes it's a PTSD behavior and had nothing to do with me or anything I said or did. According to this person, some believe that experiencing depth of emotion with someone can make a person with PTSD feel vulnerable to accessing feelings and memories that might be a trigger for them, so they feel a desperate urge to flee.

I wonder the same things you do. Will he ever talk to me again? Even just to explain? I don't have any answers, but it comforts me to hear the similar experiences of others here. For me, the understanding of the PTSD makes it harder. If he was just a jerk who blew me off, it would be easier to put it behind me.

 

[sadgirl]

Oh, I just saw that your guy came back. I'm glad for you. It gives me hope that maybe there will be closure someday.

 

[WTF Happened]

@sadgirl I think I've mentioned it before in another thread, but everything you just wrote could have been written by me. There is comfort in knowing I am not alone. I hope we both get at least an apology and explanation one day. If nothing else, just to know what we had mattered.

 

[sadgirl]

WTF, did you ever talk to a counselor about what happened to you?

 

[WTF Happened]

Yup, I'm in therapy. Don't know where I'd be without it!

 

[sadgirl]

Good. It helped me a lot to understand that what happened wasn't about me or about devaluing the relationship.

 

[WTF Happened]

@sadgirl I understand that intellectually but I still struggle with it. It's like a feeling in the body. Feeling betrayed, deceived. Like the whole thing was fake. Even as I read all the stories that are so similar to mine, I still have trouble separating the illness from the person. It's weird.