Relationship Best guy i ever met-shut me out

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He doesn't seem to seek help, he is no longer taking meds. I know we all wish there was somethin...

I must say that it's extremely hard to maintain a healthy relationship with someone suffering with ptsd. My partner has broken up with me a few times since we started dating back in December. I've been hurt quite a few times and I keep going back because I know now that it's mostly his ptsd dictating his actions. He always comes back around eventually. He just recently told me that we should be friends because that's what he's looking for, so I told him that I need someone to be a partner and I would possibly be leaving town as well; he didn't want to hear that. He wants my friendship and wants me here; I know ( super confusing). He really likes bringing up things I either didn't do right or did that may have been wrong in his eyes. I try to defend myself but he's not hearing it, but he ends up coming around. I know now that i don't believe I can continue to accept him breaking my heart and treating me like some toy he's tired of playing with. He's 16 years younger than me and sometimes I feel like I'm raising a child. December is supposed to be a year and initially I was planning to ask him to marry me, but now I don't know. I'd be very afraid of dealing with his up and down moods, his blaming me for things, his high expectations of me, his not allowing me to make mistakes. Sobbe preapred for everything I just mentioned and pissibly more. I say hang in there, maybe you can deal with it.

 

[Lössnus]

It's like I wrote in another thread a day or two ago..
You need to be very clear about some things..

We struggle a lot, from one second to another we can be fine, then in hell only to go back to being fine the second after that.
You need to be willing to help, understand, give help and give space.
You must never betray his trust and he has to trust you and be honest with you.
If you guys don't have that, it will sadly never work.

Seing it as it's been a while now I'm guessing the ship has already sailed, but yes.. Perhaps you meet someone new with the same background, and then this information might be good to have.

Key is knowledge, really.

 

[Deleted member 44240]

It's like I wrote in another thread a day or two ago..
You need to be very clear about some things.....

Contrary, the ship hasn't sailed as of yet... I'm learning him more and more. Although we may have moments of distrust and confusion, we are still trying to understand each other day to day. I'm currently working on getting him a better therapist to help him with maintaining his ptsd. He's being very receptive to all of my ideas and help which is a good sign.