Relationship Bf breaks up with me days after ptsd diagnosis

[EveHarrington]

We can’t tell you why he’s doing any of this.

We can give you 8 million guesses, and it’s possible that each and every one of our guesses will be wrong.

I’m not quite sure if it’s going to really help you all that much to just be doing a lot of guesswork.

What you can do is accept the reality of the situation....accept that he has cheated and is now gone.

 

[Mytime]

If he didn’t have PTSD would you be ok with his behaviour and how he treated you?

 

[MEF]

No but I worry that he’s not thinking clearly.

 

[Mytime]

Let’s say he lied to you about the other woman. He used that as a way to end the relationship. Why? Because he is starting treatment and doesn’t have to ability to but in a relationship. All his focus has to be on his treatment. He can’t give himself 100% if he’s worried about you or feeling guilty because your waiting for him and he doesn’t know when he will be healthy enough to be in any kind of relationship. And if he is only able to handle one relationship, it would be with his daughter.

 

[MEF]

Makes sense

 

[littleoc]

You deserve to be treated with respect and valued. He’s not doing that. I really feel you should move on and leave him behind. I know it hurts and it’s hard but you can find happiness with someone who truly loves you. His actions are not of love.

I second this.

 

[Mytime]

He may not be thinking clearly, but that’s not a pass on cheating on you. You don’t deserve to be treated this way.

 

[MEF]

I agree

 

[MEF]

I just really love him and I’m worried about him. Was it wrong to tell him that I love him and I’m here if he needs to talk?

 

[Sweetpea76]

People end relationships for hundreds of different reasons. The kicker is, it doesn't matter how legitimate the reason is, the relationship is still over. It takes two people to make a relationship work, but only one person to end it.

I'm sorry you're going through this. Break ups suck.

Was it wrong to tell him that I love him and I’m here if he needs to talk?

No. You can tell him whatever you'd like.

You can't fix this though. He has mental health issues, and you have zero control. That's what sucks about PTSD relationships.

 

[EveHarrington]

People end relationships for hundreds of different reasons. The kicker is, it doesn't matter how leg...

I totally agree with this.

If you hold on, you’re only going to be prolonging your pain. I’ve been there myself.

 

[Mytime]

Please know, I don’t want you to feel it’s ok or except, that is ok to cheat because he has PTSD. Many here will tell you. Cheating is not a PTSD symptom, it’s a choice. A very painful one for you. I’m so sorry your hurting.