Relationship Blocked Maybe?!

[TheMinsterman]

If it helps, me and "my sufferer" had very staggered and bad communication for well over a month including a spell of no talking, initiated by myself. Since she reached back out though we now talk every single day, for hours, right now she just wants me as a friend but, we talk like we used to at least so there is hope channels will reopen when they're ready. Mine is much more stable now and we can talk about things, it's not been the romantic reunion I perhaps dreamed of but she confirmed I was still the most important person in her world so it may not be the end forever for you.

 

[MoriMermaid]

That's sometimes all that's needed. Patience. Right now, the person in my life doesn't talk for hours. Maybe an hour here and there; however, it's something. It's not possible at the moment with his illness, but I hope for a day when it will.

 

[TheMinsterman]

I'd also add something else she said, you have to remember people do things because people do things, not because of you or your perceived faults.

 

[ConcreteRose]

Thank you all for your thoughts, advice and feedback. It's pretty awesome being able to communicate with people who get it. I think being ghosted before definitely plays a part in how I've been processing everything. I try to remember not to take it personal but sometimes I believe a part of me does even though I know better. It's something I need to get use to I suppose. I know that PTSD makes things more complex and everything isn't so black and white, I still have plenty to learn. I will say being here has helped a lot. Its a bit of a roller coaster but compared to times before I can see where I have grown more in patience and understanding. I'm still somewhat new to the concept of self care. I had always thought of it as a selfish thing until maybe a year ago. Now I know better. I'm going to try and focus a bit more attention to myself and pray he comes around when he's ready.