Breaking Negative Loop

[Estacia]

For me this thought process is like " the song that never ends".:eek:

 

[Tanishq]

Actually, I want to say that sometimes a person's problem is not only the problem from himself or his parents' but boardly and objectively, connected to the surrounding he's in. Sometimes, the source of trauma could be traced to the flaws and inperfectness of these "beautifylly interwoven' whole things

Sunshine, would you take my suggestion? Let's create separate thread about this and I think we can find out something. We will dig deeper. I do want to discuss and share things regarding this humanity and ptsd topic. I am looking forward to your thought.

 

[Tanishq]

I observe it and follow it to track back its original sources which is usually filled with overwhelmed pressure ,which fuel the negative loop

Everyone has different techniques. It's so important to learn kind of negative loop and understand it properly. You hit the nail on head, we need to know its root. Otherwise we will keep wandering. it's difficult to understand. it sounds once your figure out about your loop, it will look like you are half done. Next steps will be executing actions to break it.

Your combo is effective for you. :tup:

As for soul mate. Yes, kind of lovers from paradise. I believe marriages are made from heaven. I am searching for my partner. Thank you a lot. :)

I don't know why I chose Jaret. Its meaning is spear, I even don't know why I kept this. I just meant to sound it different. I liked spelling it, so kept it. :D

 

[Tanishq]

"the song that never ends"

Oh Estacia, I am sorry you're feeling so hard. but I want you to know it isn't impossible. You can break it. Therefore I created this thread. You can figure out definitely. Please Ask away... I would like to see you succeeding. We will try to support you best. :)

 

[sunshineontheway]

how dare you tell me not to cry you cheeky woman? :p hahaha.

Come on, Jaret, I just want to sooth you......:inlove:

 

[sunshineontheway]

Mine parents often made me feel like I am their animal. They also beat me physically like animal and dad used to run after me to catch me and beat me much.

Well, when I read this part, I think your parents are really too harsh on you.....and they lack of correct way of teaching a kid....I think you must met with much pressure during your childhood....It's same that my parents would be strict with me and always ask me to get the first rank in academic field...

 

[sunshineontheway]

Sunshine, would you take my suggestion? Let's create separate thread about this and I think we can find out something. We will dig deeper. I do want to discuss and share things regarding this humanity and ptsd topic. I am looking forward to your thought.

ok ;)

 

[sunshineontheway]

Everyone has different techniques. It's so important to learn kind of negative loop and understand it properly. You hit the nail on head, we need to know its root. Otherwise we will keep wandering. it's difficult to understand. it sounds once your figure out about your loop, it will look like you are half done. Next steps will be executing actions to break it.

Your combo is effective for you. :tup:

Yes, I learned this method through <life after trauma>, the source is the evil root of unpleasant feeling and PTSD symptom, which eternally fule the negative loop...to me, the only way to stop this loop is to remove the emotional pustule . I compare the source negative event and unprocessed negative feeling as emotional pustule as it contains much pressure and negative feeling, which have been depressed and burried in unconsiousness of the mind. They ferment if not treated in time. More vividly, I compare the process of negative loop to the process of fermentaion ,which hardly get an end and the derivative unpleasent feeling and negative thought to the toxic generalized by this fermentaion.

 

[sunshineontheway]

As for soul mate. Yes, kind of lovers from paradise. I believe marriages are made from heaven. I am searching for my partner. Thank you a lot. :)

I don't know why I chose Jaret. Its meaning is spear, I even don't know why I kept this. I just meant to sound it different. I liked spelling it, so kept it. :D

Ah..we have similar fairy tale .in our country, everytime I think of this fairy tale, I would see a picture showing a couple of lovers flying on a crane over the clouds.....:cool:

I would also keep my name, haha, though it's too long, but I trust it would bring good luck and hope to me....:laugh:

 

[Nicolette]

Sunshineontheway - before you continue posting please watch 'How To Quoting' [DLMURL]https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/how-to-quoting.14329/#post-433738[/DLMURL] thank you.

You only need to quote minor relevant text and not large quantities of text thank you.

 

[sunshineontheway]

Hi, Nicolette.Thanks for your link of 'How To Quoting', however,I couldn't see any vedio in this thread. I don't know what the problem lies there. Would you kindly advise where can I get this vedio elsewhere or other access to gain this vedio?Thanks.:)

 

[Tanishq]

I just want to sooth you......

How sweet of you Sunshine. :inlove:

It's same that my parents would be strict with me and always ask me to get the first rank in academic field

They lack understanding about freedom and love. Also for passion in life. I think our parents can't stand the thought of giving freedom to us and love the way we are.

Every kid has their own passion, desire, goals and love for life. If you mess up this, they start experiencing difficulties in their own life. Kids have their own world to live and gradually they get matured. It takes time to grow. What our parents did, cut the time and start growing from childhood. Ridiculous thought, isn't it? Even if you want to grow a beautiful flower. You will have reap that seed, give time and water and also some sunshine :D. Only then flower will bloom and grow properly.

Yes, I learned this method through <life after trauma>, ... toxic generalized by this fermentaion.

Oh wow, so many insights in this post. Thank you for sharing understanding and I will keep in mind. It SOUNDS. It seems this book has been great help for you. I will think to download from net.

I would see a picture showing a couple of lovers flying on a crane over the clouds.....

Hmmm... Nice visualizations. Very beautiful to picture that couple. Mostly fairy tales shows picture of couple in beautiful white dress. Love and peace. Some divine stuff. :)

Sunshine :hug: to your way. :)