Breaking Negative Loop

[Tanishq]

the outside world would always say life is a marathon,

I saw a film here. It shared great lesson regarding life and racing behind it blindly. Life is not marathon and not an opportunity where you are running behind money to gain luxury and comfort. This is why people have fallen on shortcut traps and ended up being more unhappy. People target money and money is neutral in this universe. They end up with valueless life and complaint they didn't get everything. If you want to get everything respect love and love life. Life has everything and value in itself. You will surely start being happy and receive-give love in your life. It will take long time though. So many things to give, work on it. but more worthy. Life will give you thrill, happiness and you can go on positively...

To them, career is more important...And more or less, I can feel they don't believe PTSD is an illness but just a period of bad emotion which would fade with enough rest.....

Parents needs to listen to their kids. Listening to our own kids won't do harm. In fact it will strengthen parent-kid relationship. In your case, you're at loss. Not them. I don't agree with career is more important. My parents did the same to me. Never paying attention to someone who is in crucial need will do more harm.

PTSD is very difficult thing to deal with. Trauma and life, biggest obstacle in my opinion. It sounds like facing your all fears, even when you don't want to face them and are unpleasant to you.

I would try to find the best balance between following my step for healing and parent's expectation

My major concern right now. I am searching for this balance.

ok, you have my approval.....:p

Thank you. Please when it is morning, do spread sunshine over me. Otherwise I will keep sleeping my friend. :laugh: :roflmao:

:hug: sunshineontheway. :)

 

[sunshineontheway]

Never paying attention to someone who is in crucial need will do more harm...PTSD is very difficult thing to deal with. ... It sounds like facing your all fears, even when you don't want to face them and are unpleasant to you.

I think parents do want to help, but they lack those experience and they have huge generation gap between their kids. They sometimes don't care something that we would care much, they sometimes try to choose something or someone for us due to wanting to protect us and don't let us take the wrong path....(I think many parents are clumsy on relationship between parent and kids, they do whatever they think good to kids, but lack of equal communication inherited from their parents)...

If my parents don't understand me, I only can choose to learn more to supplement the things which would be learned from my parents, I need to teach them as they lack necessary social education and parent-kid education...It's not easy, but we need to find out a way to help ourselves, for instance, I sometimes tell white lie so that my parents can and be willing to continue to communicate with me ....For the sake of goodness, I think god will forgive me ....:laugh:

My major concern right now. I am searching for this balance..

Yes, sometimes it's really a dilema to choose, but health is the root of everything, without a strong foundation, buildings would collapse finally.....

Thank you. Please when it is morning, do spread sunshine over me. Otherwise I will keep sleeping my friend. :laugh: :roflmao:

:x3: Sunshine, sunshine come, :woot: sending to my lovely lovely friend Jaret.... Hahaha:wacky: Big hug, Jaret :hug:

 

[Tanishq]

I think parents do want to help, but they lack those experience and they have huge generation gap between their kids.

My parents used this thought to manipulate me. I trusted them for 20 years. I was hoping some day they would try to listen me in the least. They would try to understand I have feelings and I do have my own desires. but no, they kept expecting. you know, my parents think they are the ones who has got all worldly pressures and I am the one who has no pressure. Therefore I should study hard. I hoped it would be okay if they don't consider me.

My parents wants best from me, they want whatever money they invest I must bring best regardless of my health and what I feel and it will be ok if they don't want to give me best.

Though in most in cases this is true. There is huge generation gape between us and our parents. I don't deny that. It does apply to my parents. When my parents were kids they struggled with money and but were rich with family love and togetherness. When I was kid, I saw true abundance and but lacked family.

I am sorry, if I am not making sense. I am hurt lately.

health is the root of everything, without a strong foundation, buildings would collapse finally

Oh wow, so profound saying from you. :)

:x3: Sunshine, sunshine come, :woot: sending to my lovely lovely friend Jaret.... Hahaha:wacky: Big hug, Jaret :hug:

Thank you so much sunshine. I will send the same for you. Shiney bright vibes and Big hug to you,too. You are very caring and supportive. big :hug:

 

[Tanishq]

So far, I have broken one negative loop.

First I used to respond with negativity and used to beat myself.

Today I respond with some positivity and don't beat up myself. This is tiny success I have got from last many months.

I used to doubt my own ideas, but I don't doubt this little idea of breaking negative loops. I have learned I need not to force myself, I need to let the positivity sink in and float with it.

Still so much work to do. I thought to bump this thread as it is more appropriate for discussion about breaking loopy thoughts.

 

[The Albatross]

Yay Jaret! Progress ;)

 

[Whitneys story]

Big :hug:Every time we all have to do with something new, like we are on new level. That will start creating slighter differences. Does this make sense for this thread?

I like it a trillion! :tup: Whitney