scout86
MyPTSD Pro
I keep wondering what causes the responses you keep getting too. Around the forum, I sure haven't seen anything that makes sense of that. It seems like it must be crazy bad luck, and yet, it's also hard to believe anyone can have luck THAT bad.I should probably figure out why I trigger people to get forceful or think that is needed
When he said that, what do you think would have happened if you had asked something like "What makes you think that?" Because the answer to that might give some insight into what's going on. It also might make the person you're talking to stop to assess their own assumptions and where they're coming from. (But, maybe not. My T keeps saying, "There you go, expecting people to be reasonable again." Then we both laugh, BTW)He replied that I need “a direct and forceful approach to be effective.” He said he would be too nice and empathetic.
Since this kind of thing seems to come up kind of often, do you think there would be any benefit in flipping it around and getting THEM to explain themselves? (I've done this. I find resisting the impulse to defend/explain myself is kind of hard at first, but it's possible.)
I don know what that guy's problem was. Far as I know, an intact is a simple gathering of information and doesn't require any decisions or value judgements by the person conducting it. Doesn't sound to me like he did a very good job. If you actually want to gather information, it seems like you need to let the other person talk and ENCOURAGE them to talk. You don't do that by arguing with them, like he did.
I don't know that this is something you can exactly do wrong. It the therapist's job to get the information they need. It's probably more helpful for them if we do what we all might think of as "over sharing", but, at least in theory, THEY are the ones who are supposed to know what's going on and how to steer the conversation so we all get where we need to go.I have no idea, with therapists, if I tell them too much or not enough.