I know the emotional turmoil you're going through right now. After being beat since I was an infant I couldn't handle cutting ties with my mother. In my head I would tell myself, it's your mother, who stops talking to their mother? She birthed you and raised you! Then going through justifying her actions. (She has epilepsy and I'm sure it has caused damage to her frontal lobe) She denies everything, or doesn't remember (a side effect of epilepsy) and will never admit she has a problem.
The day came when I realized no matter what I did or say, things were never going to change. She was moving out of state and I drove to help her with my exs 2 small children. The morning after we arrived she blew off the handle and became verbally abusive to my exs daughter. Calling her horrific names and such. That was when the light switch went off. I knew exactly how that poor little girl felt at the time and I knew things would never change. Up till this point she was still hitting me, and if it was only me I probably would still speak to her. It took me seeing myself in that little girl to realize what needed to happen.
That was 10+ years ago and I have never regretted my decision. You can't help or change anyone unless they want to do it themselves. Keeping toxic people in your life is no way to live.
The day came when I realized no matter what I did or say, things were never going to change. She was moving out of state and I drove to help her with my exs 2 small children. The morning after we arrived she blew off the handle and became verbally abusive to my exs daughter. Calling her horrific names and such. That was when the light switch went off. I knew exactly how that poor little girl felt at the time and I knew things would never change. Up till this point she was still hitting me, and if it was only me I probably would still speak to her. It took me seeing myself in that little girl to realize what needed to happen.
That was 10+ years ago and I have never regretted my decision. You can't help or change anyone unless they want to do it themselves. Keeping toxic people in your life is no way to live.
