Cancer Sucks!

[Shellbell]

(((((prime-no)))))). I'm so sorry this is happening and for the pain it is causing. It does suck so much.

I'm so glad your little God-son has you to help him through this.

 

[Froggie]

Caught up on the thread, I'm so sorry for the result of you friend. Yes she will have another battle to fight. This is so unfair when it happens to children and young adults (parents of youngsters). She picked well the god-mother of her son, she knew that she could count on you. As I said before, this ordeal is harder for those who surround the one with cancer. My prayers are with her, your grand-son, her H and for you too ((((prime-no))))

 

[Tinyflame]

Well Froggie, it's very hard for everyone. ((((((((Froggie, xoxoxox))))))))).

 

[JustBe]

((((((prime-no)))))))

 

[p-no]

After the first shock (which is not over), I have started postcard attacks, part II. Meaning I will choose postcards that I think my friend might like every other day to let her know she's not alone. I did that after the diagnosis a year ago and it brought her a lot of strength and joy.

On the weekend I wrote a postcard. I really liked the front of it, the picture and what it read. Today I went to the post office, bought a stamp and put it on the card. I brought another card for a friend too and did the same. Then I threw both into the mail box. Some time later I realized I had not put the address. Zero, neither the name nor the address, nothing.

I'm losing it. Today was one of the hardest I can remember.

 

[p-no]

Is there anything I can do for her other than sending postcards? She has withdrawn, chemo has started, too. She said she didn't want anyone to feel sorry for her. I don't think people feel sorry for her, but compassion. And they express it, too. To me, it seems she just wants to/needs to focus on moving forward, fight. I do understand that, but it makes me feel helpless. I would like to do something for her.

 

[Mcll]

prime-no, I think the best thing you can do is to spend time with her and talk.

 

[Mcll]

When my grandmother was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer I felt frantic too, I didn't know what I could do. I bought her a Barnes & Noble card, I told her if she told me what she wanted I would go pick up the books myself. She wasn't interested. Instead I spent time with her, made her lunch and tea. Sat by her side when she was asleep. We watched old movies and talked and laughed and I will always have those memories.

 

[p-no]

I would like this very much, Mcll, but she doesn't want that. She's started chemo yesterday and has her little son. There's more to say to explain but I don't want to go into so much detail online. Fact is, it's not what she wants. She wants her son.

 

[JustBe]

Prime-no, I wonder if you and her son could send her video"postcards" of him doing fun little things or even everyday things that she could access on a phone or tablet? Just a thought.

 

[Red Feather]

(((((prime-no))))) Sorry to hear you are having cancer-related stress as well. I would say it's not that bad that the postcards weren't addressed, it was the intention that counts, and that intention will travel to them even without an address. :hug:

 

[p-no]

So sorry, I guess I'm not good at making myself clear right now. Thanks very much, Movin'On, for your idea, which is very good, but her son is with her. I live quite far away, five hours. What I meant was that she has what she wants right now, that's her son and that is good. From my point of view she is overwhelmed by the situation she finds herself in once again, almost exactly one year after the first diagnosis of cancer. It seems to me that she does what I do in such a situation: withdraw to a certain extent, in order to be strong enough to focus on what must be done, i.e. in her case fighting the cancer.

Thank you very much, you two, Movin'On and Nadia, for your kind words.