Sufferer Can't Escape From Sociopath Abuser. Going Mad!

[Tinyflame]

A personal protection dog? We received one 'loaned' (free of charge)
xox

 

[Queen Boudica]

Welcome Many Rivers. So sad you have to go through this. And that the police are not providing you with all the protection you need is revolting.

Agree, Bloom and Deb have some excellent ideas. And the idea of protection dog, brilliant Junebug. Wish I could send you my neighbour's dog, he is 75 kg and pretty scary.

 

[goingonhope]

Hi there Many Rivers and Welcome to the forum!

Hope

 

[Ron]

Welcome to the forum !! I believe your situation needs a radical approach. If I was you, I would take your son and disappear. Change your name,change your state, and go. Rent your place out first though.

 

[BloomInWinter]

Ron & ManyRivers

That doesn't work for most women. Few have the financial resources to gain a whole new identity.

Even if a parent could, they become a wanted felon and THEN the federal authorities bring the parent to justice, often being forced to turn the kids over to the abuser anyway. Even if not caught, the children then are required to live in constant fear of discovery, and the parent is forced to try to lead a life outside the social safety net entirely...bringing up new vulnerabilities.

A female worker working off the clock is at the mercy of an abusive employer.

It's truly better to stand and fight where you are in most cases. Develop networks of safe people who understand, find and use all resources available...and learn how to make ourselves, our homes a 'hard target'.

Sad choice at this injustice.

 

[Srain]

Welcome to the Forum,

I'm very sorry for what you are going through, it's especially difficult because you have a child with this abuser. If you are in the states I would also contact the State Attorney General and advise them of what is going on. It never hurts to get as many people involved as possible, let them know everything that you've been told by the police, i.e. that threats made over the phone are not really threats. I know that they are! That's ridiculous and they should be right on top of those calls! This man has a dangerous history.

I agree, you do need someone to help you go through this process because you are being worn down and out, that's what abusers do, that is the purpose of the constant harassment. I can see here just from the little that you have written that he is abusive not only to you but to your son and I believe at a certain age your son has every right to say he no longer wants any contact with the abuser. I would certainly allow him to make a report if wants to and look into his being able to block all contact.

It's good you are here. Please take good care of yourself.

Peace,
Rain

 

[BloomInWinter]

Thanks for the replies!

I have had the locks changed years ago, and have been wanting to install a camera so I have some evidence of the things that he has been doing outside of my house.

Also, do you have any neighbors you trust? Can you tell them honestly what you are dealing with and ask them to contact the police if they see him outside your home? Or, have one light on the side of the house they face and only turn it on as a 'trouble alert?'

Allowing a neighbor or two to help you will combat the isolation, the fear, and also make it far harder for the police to keep ignoring him.