Selfishnoodles
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Hiya I would just like some advice from people who have to deal with people with PTSD, and even those with it too. My childs father is military though he will be leaving soon because of his mental health. We have a child together and though he's really hardly been in her life much I would like that to change and I would hope that he means it when he says he wants that too.
The problem is- I seem to be one of his triggers. And though my instinct is to try help him, he seems to want as little as possible to do with me, because he gets so angry over literally NOTHING, which is fine but also quite hard to go against my own sort of automatic response to want to listen and be there when actually that appears to make things worse lol.
He's only recently been diagnosed with PTSD though he has been horrendous to me excessively so for over 5 years and I have no doubt this developed when I was pregnant.
I just want to know ways to cope with this situation, ways to be a parent while keeping my distance and what I can expect? What in his bad behaviour does he mean? He struggles to talk to me about it and I have no experience to draw on, I have felt suicidal myself sometimes from how it's been though I feel a weights been lifted now he's sort of willing to accept he has a problem now. I feel positive there can maybe be an end to it or at least an improvement. Just give me all the info experience you can I have nothing and I need data to try understand him, and this and what the hell is guna happen, Thanks in advance. xx
The problem is- I seem to be one of his triggers. And though my instinct is to try help him, he seems to want as little as possible to do with me, because he gets so angry over literally NOTHING, which is fine but also quite hard to go against my own sort of automatic response to want to listen and be there when actually that appears to make things worse lol.
He's only recently been diagnosed with PTSD though he has been horrendous to me excessively so for over 5 years and I have no doubt this developed when I was pregnant.
I just want to know ways to cope with this situation, ways to be a parent while keeping my distance and what I can expect? What in his bad behaviour does he mean? He struggles to talk to me about it and I have no experience to draw on, I have felt suicidal myself sometimes from how it's been though I feel a weights been lifted now he's sort of willing to accept he has a problem now. I feel positive there can maybe be an end to it or at least an improvement. Just give me all the info experience you can I have nothing and I need data to try understand him, and this and what the hell is guna happen, Thanks in advance. xx
