@Tea should add, (for me), what does it (the above) matter, really. Just one's individual reality or battle I guess. Better for some than me, worse for many. Best for me to ignore it and keep it to myself. And from what I know most people aren't too interested about what isn't their concern, whether it's past or current. Most of the time it's embarassing to discclose or in the event someone is soft-hearted I'd rather they didn't feel badly, either. Maybe the fact people don't 'get it' maybe can bother me more because it feels more like an insult to those who are dead? Idk. It changes how one views many things however,
Far as forgiveness goes, not a choice to be rushed, I think. Just something perhaps to not concentrate on- the 'what ifs' or wishing or woulda/ coulda/ shouda's. If the past can't be changed the only thing is how you can choose to reflect on it, process it (imcluding getting furious if necessary, etc), or not make resenting it a long-term priority since there is nothing to bbe gained from that.
Good luck to you.
Far as forgiveness goes, not a choice to be rushed, I think. Just something perhaps to not concentrate on- the 'what ifs' or wishing or woulda/ coulda/ shouda's. If the past can't be changed the only thing is how you can choose to reflect on it, process it (imcluding getting furious if necessary, etc), or not make resenting it a long-term priority since there is nothing to bbe gained from that.
Good luck to you.
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