I try to keep my work and personal lives totally separate. To many times I have been the victim of gossip and lies told by people at work. As soon as they learn something abut a co-worker the bitchiness starts - they are like this to everyone and I totally hate it. Rumors abound and it is very unsettling and hurtful to whether the gossip is about me or someone else, and it has become a major trigger for me.
Unfortunately this has made me isolated at work, as if you don't join in the toxic behavior then there is "something wrong with you" and you get excluded from everything. Not unhappy to be excluded from the bitchiness, but it would have been nice to be able to have some kind of social connection with my co-workers, you know like being able to have lunch with someone and not end up with rumors about it starting!
Unfortunately, due to symptom severity in the past, most of my friends have drifted away (I also did nothing to maintain the relationships) - the people that I still have contact with live interstate. This severely limits the engagement that I get to have with other people. I have been trying to meet new people, but it is really hard as I now keep myself under a very tight rein, and am too careful about what I say. I think this is because that is what I need to do at work to protect myself, and I am not well enough to be able to relax and be more open in a social setting.